This Week, My Wife Will Have an Affair: Episode 7
by CandidClown
When Soo-yeon makes a difficult decision, Hyun-woo is left scrambling to hold on to his marriage, which forces him to take a hard look at his own faults in the process. In the meantime, Joon-young fixates on a new obsession and debates on whether to come clean with his friends and colleagues. Thank goodness these guys have Bo-young around to provide some cool logic, though her solutions may not be what they were hoping for.
EPISODE 7 RECAP
Hyun-woo heads home, intending to follow TUNAMAYO’s advice and have a conversation with his wife. Instead, he arrives to find an empty house and divorce papers waiting for him, with Soo-yeon’s wedding ring sitting on top. He immediately calls his mom and is relieved to hear that Joon-soo is with her. His mom tells him that Soo-yeon said she needed some time alone, revealing that her daughter-in-law had told her the truth. She advises him to think about Joon-soo, and whether he wants his son to live in a broken home.
After he hangs up with his mother, Hyun-woo gets a text from Soo-yeon saying that she was afraid if they met in person, then they would end up fighting again. She continues that she doesn’t want to hurt him anymore, and asks him to contact her when he has his feelings sorted out. Hyun-woo angrily rips up the divorce papers, yelling, “Why do I have to get a divorce? Why me? What is it that I did so wrong? What the hell did I do that was so wrong?!”
Yoon-ki has his newest target in a hotel room, but the woman isn’t feeling very amorous and fends off his advances. Looking out the window, she says the lights remind her of Okinawa, and sighs that if she were to go there, then her heart and body would unfreeze. Yoon-ki jumps up like a dog that just heard the sound of kibble: “Even your body? Let’s Go!” They make plans to go that weekend.
Yoon-ki returns home and whines to Ara about the “nighttime hiking trip” that a certain Judge Kim is making him go on this weekend. He keeps ranting about how he’s so upset since he and Ara had planned to be together this weekend, and he’s really disappointed. Ever that supportive (and suspicious) wife, Ara sends her grouching husband to go wash up… then proceeds to sniff/inspect his clothing, finding a long, female hair on his tie.
Joon-young is well and truly drunk after the team dinner that night and sits crying to himself while an exasperated Bo-young watches over him. Sobbing about Hyun-woo’s pitiful life, he wails at Bo-young that she has no idea how pathetic his own life really is. Bo-young just sighs, asking if this is revenge for him taking her home when she was drunk. Heh.
Looking like she wants to be anywhere but there, Bo-young dashes off for a moment and returns to put a hangover cure in his hand and two heat packs in his jacket. She asks her semiconscious colleage to understand that this is the best she can do.
She starts to walk off but then comes back a moment later, looking torn.
Hyun-woo decides to stay the night at Joon-young’s again, wandering in and ranting that Soo-yeon asked for a divorce… only to realize that Joon-young isn’t home.
Back on the street, Bo-young walks away from Joon-young after wrapping a cardboard fence around him and sticking a post-it note to his forehead with the message: “Please wake me up at 7:30 a.m. I have to go to work.” Well, I suppose she tried.
Having asked her boss for a day off, Soo-yeon waits at a train station, bag in hand. Meanwhile, Hyun-woo sits amidst a clutter of empty beer cans, reading the responses to his post. More than a little tipsy, Hyun-woo scoffs at all the compliments to TUNAMAYO’s advice and types out a reply, accusing TUNAMAYO of just wanting attention.
All his many fans see his post and eagerly tune in to read Hyun-woo’s story, which is a criticism of TUNAMAYO’s bad advice. Hyun-woo flops back down on the couch while the tide turns in the chat room, with everyone criticizing TUNAMAYO for butting in.
Morning dawns, and a hungover Hyun-woo answers a call from Joon-young, who yells that their show’s premiere episode managed to get eleven percent ratings (translation: pretty good). Hyun-woo groggily asks where Joon-young is, but when Joon-young answers that he’s at home, Hyun-woo points out that he’s at his home, leading Joon-young to ask, “…Then, where am I?”
Cut to: Joon-young waking up in his cardboard fort on the sidewalk, getting stared at by pedestrians. Rocketing up, he finds the post-it that Bo-young left and sees that a number of people have added their own notes. The replies range from unhelpfully telling him to go to work, to apologizing for taking a sip of his drink. Hah.
Joon-young meets Hyun-woo for a convenience store breakfast, all the while ranting at Bo-young for leaving him in the cold when he took such good care of her before. His tirade is cut short when Hyun-woo shares that Soo-yeon asked for a divorce.
All ready to be flustered on his hyung’s behalf, Joon-young’s righteous fury gets interrupted when the pair overhear two customers discussing TOYCRANE’s latest post, gossiping that he’s about to get dumped by the woman who divorced him.
Hyun-woo and Joon-young quickly duck down, and Joon-young reads over Hyun-woo’s post, awed that he’s become a celebrity overnight. Joon-young asks if he’s really getting a divorce, but Hyun-woo snarls back that he’ll never get a divorce: “I’ll keep her by my side until I’ve sucked all the happiness out of her!” Yup, that’s healthy.
Soo-yeon arrives at her father’s house in the countryside. He greets her warmly, but there seems to be a polite tension between them. Soo-yeon’s dad makes her some food while Soo-yeon goes back to her childhood room, looking at all her old photos.
Hyun-woo and Joon-young arrive at work, and the whole team is abuzz to see the positive response that their program is receiving. Hyun-woo encourages everyone to keep working hard, but Joon-young is busy eerily glaring at Bo-young.
Back in the country, Soo-yeon’s dad brings a tray of food to his daughter’s room, but finds her sound asleep on the floor.
Getting ready for his Okinawa getaway, Yoon-ki goes to a tanning salon. He gets called away soon after by one of his many girlfriends. The two meet in a car, with Yoon-ki bemoaning how all the location shooting has led him to getting a tan in winter. Puh.
His girlfriend whines that he’s been ignoring her lately and asks him to go on a trip with her, but when he agrees that of course they should go, she grins and chirps that they should go this weekend. Since this clashes with Yoon-ki’s Okinawa plans, he distracts the young thing with a make-out session, covering her protests with rather forceful kisses.
Hyun-woo comes across Joon-young crying over his phone. Hyun-woo disbelievingly asks if he’s crying on his behalf (again), but it turns out that this time, Joon-young’s sobbing over the thoughtful and well-meaning comment that TUANMAYO posted in response to Hyun-woo’s criticism.
Joon-young is in awe of the magnanimous response to Hyun-woo’s tirade and starts berating his hyung for his harsh words, but Hyun-woo is more concerned to hear that TUNAMAYO responded to his new posts.
Back at his desk, Hyun-woo reads TUNAMAYO’s response: “You must be devastated. Wouldn’t the reason that you’re so angry be that you still love your wife? No matter what choice you make, please choose the one that leaves you with the least regret.” Hyun-woo remains unmoved by the touching words, interpreting it as a refusal on TUNAMAYO’s part to admit she was wrong in front of the other netizens.
In contrast, Joon-young has tipped over into worship mode, praising the glory of TUNAMAYO. (Oy.) Ignoring his converted hoobae, Hyun-woo angrily writes back that he followed TUNAMAYO’s suggestion, and now his wife is asking for a divorce.
At his post, all of Hyun-woo’s fans tune in, reading as Hyun-woo continues writing that he tried to be understanding of his wife and do all the things TUNAMAYO suggested, but now she’s asking for a divorce anyway.
Yoon-ki stops by the team’s office, and the sight of his browned complexion causes Hyun-woo and Joon-young to ask if he got hit by lightning. Yoon-ki’s airily explains today’s tanning trend, but Bo-young interrupts to tell them that their new husband for the show is here to be interviewed.
The team’s new spouse proves to be no weakling, angrily saying that his wife had an affair and is now asking him for a divorce. Hyun-woo and Joon-young exchange glances over the parallels as the man continues to yell that he’ll never give his wife the divorce.
Yoon-ki steps in to point out that as the cheating spouse, the man’s wife has no grounds to ask for a divorce. However, the man admits that, actually, he cheated on his wife three years prior. (Pot, meet kettle.)
After the interview, Joon-young can’t understand it: They both cheated on each other, so why won’t they just divorce? Bo-young says that it’s because a divorce means everything is over, and the man clearly still loves his wife.
At Joon-young’s disbelieving look, Bo-young points out, “Seeing how he’s still getting that angry, he must still love her.” Her words jolt Joon-young with how similar they sound to TUNAMAYO’s advice.
Soo-yeon is awakened from her deep sleep and heads out to her father, smiling to hear him playing the harmonica. Soo-yeon asks if he isn’t lonely living out here by himself, but he assures her that he’s fine before asking after his grandson.
The father-daughter moment is interrupted when Hyun-woo calls his father-in-law. Fishing to see if his wife is there, Hyun-woo keeps the conversation light, but Soo-yeon’s dad doesn’t reveal that she’s with him.
Yoon-ki is having some trouble keeping up with all his mistresses. Exhausted from his girlfriend, he tries to beg off on a date with the flower arrangement teacher, but the woman says they can just meet over the weekend. Unwilling to compromise his Okinawa trip, Yoon-ki gives in, and the two retire for hanky-panky.
Struggling to stay awake, Yoon-ki goes bathing suit shopping with the client he’s trying to seduce, who seems to like the idea of seeing him in an itty bitty speedo.
The film team discusses whether to use the two cheating spouses as this week’s topic, but Joon-young can’t stop staring at Bo-young, convinced she’s TUNAMAYO. After fumbling through the meeting, he asks Bo-young if she’s a member of the stocks chat room (where Hyun-woo posted). When she affirms it, he tentatively inquires if her username is a food.
Bo-young nods, asking if he knows her ID, and Joon-young looks like his world is imploding. After Bo-young leaves, Joon-young stares after her, whimpering that his precious TUNAMAYO can’t possibly be her.
Oh boy. In preparation for his new speedo, Yoon-ki goes to get a Brazilian wax. He’s happy to see that his attendant is a pretty woman, but she’s soon replaced by a burly man who unmercifully yanks the wax strips from Yoon-ki’s not-so-happy place (eeouch!).
At the team office, Joon-young grins/glares at Bo-young, believing he’s caught on to her TUNAMAYO identity. The grinning glare is so creepy that she confronts him over it, and Joon-young just goes off, calling her a hypocrite and demanding back his “days’ worth of touched feelings.” Bo-young just sighs to see Joon-young reach yet another level of crazy.
On a roll, Joon-young “outs” Bo-young as TUNAMAYO, whisper-yelling at her, “You knew that Hyun-woo is TOYCRANE and posted comments while pretending to be someone else, didn’t you?” He grins again, asking how long she’s known, but Bo-young snarks back, “What would I know? I just found out that [Hyun-woo] is TOYCRANE from you.”
Joon-young still doesn’t believe her, so she walks off, shaking her head at his antics and calling him a mental patient. Yeesh, the laugh he gives to her retreating form is alarmingly insane.
Hyun-woo and Joon-young share some couch time, both pouting over their prospective problems. Joon-young is still convinced that Bo-young is TUNAMAYO and sends an angry post about her, determined to make her respond to him.
Meanwhile, Soo-yeon turns her phone back on and calls Hyun-woo, who leaps up to answer it.
Hyun-woo immediately starts a mini-rant on the phone, asking how she could just take off and leave divorce papers behind. He reminds her about Joon-soo, and yells that he hasn’t done anything wrong to be punished with a divorce.
Soo-yeon asks him what he wants to do then, but Hyun-woo can only answer that he doesn’t know. He says he can no longer tell what’s right or wrong, but he doesn’t want Soo-yeon to decide on her own either. Aww, his words are angry, but more than anything, he sounds scared that his wife won’t come back.
Out of the blue, Soo-yeon asks her husband, “You’ve never cheated on me?” Hyun-woo stands shocked, unable to answer as Soo-yeon tells him to forget she asked before hanging up.
Hyun-woo wanders back to the couch in a daze and asks Joon-young, “Have I ever had an affair?” He tells him about Soo-yeon’s question, and how he got tongue-tied and couldn’t answer.
Because he couldn’t answer her right away, Hyun-woo starts second-guessing himself, telling Joon-young in a puzzled voice that surely, if he’d had an affair, he should remember… right?
Yoon-ki waddles to dinner with Ara, lying that his limping is due to pulling a muscle and not from have the hair yanked from little Yoon-ki. Ara drops the hint that her father was planning to come for dinner this weekend and was very disappointed to have to cancel, which has Yoon-ki hastily telling her to reschedule. He promises that he can come home in time for dinner with his father-in-law.
Ara starts to call her father to ask him to make Judge Kim cancel the “hiking trip” anyways, so Yoon-ki wincingly scoops her up and carries her to the bedroom, distracting her the best way he knows how. Later, as Ara is sleeping, Yoon-ki lies awake with a nosebleed from exhaustion. As a string of texts from his many mistresses beep onto his phone, Yoon-ki whimpers, “Because of Okinawa, I’m burnt to ashes.”
Still at her father’s house, Soo-yeon starts to read a book, but stops when she sees that Hyun-woo had written a note on the back page: “Don’t just look at books, come look at the stars with me.”
The sweet message from her husband reminds her of when the two were young. They’d been out looking at the stars, and the young couple had promised each other that, no matter how busy they get in the future with work and family, they’d make time to come look at the stars together.
Back in the present, Soo-yeon tears up at the memory.
The next morning, Joon-young waits for Bo-young with his late night post to TUNAMAYO up on his computer screen. Beckoning Bo-young over, he sighs at the mean things that people will say to each other online, but then gapes when Bo-young immediately writes a response to the mystery post, “I agree with this refreshing comment. Honestly, TUNAMAYO should mind [their] own business.”
Suddenly protective of his beloved TUNAMAYO, Joon-young pouts that they’re just trying to help, not be nosy. Bo-young is unapologetic as she states that the person had no right to butt into other people’s lives. She flounces off with Joon-young yelling after her, “What do you know about TUNAMAYO!?”
Hyun-woo scrolls through his phone as he tries to find out who he cheated with while Joon-young pouts that Bo-young isn’t TUNAMAYO after all. Hyun-woo distractedly says he thought she was TUNAMAYO too, but reveals that her ID is actually PUDDING.
Much relieved now, Joon-young helps Hyun-woo brainstorm over who he may have cheated with, but they come up empty. Joon-young decides that their only option is to ask Yoon-ki, claiming that their friend always remembers not only his own women, but other men’s women.
Unfortunately, the guru of infidelity is a bit of a mess. Joon-young and Hyun-woo even ask the exhausted man if he needs to go to the hospital, but Yoon-ki just groans cryptically that they don’t understand how tiring Okinawa is.
Hyun-woo shares Soo-yeon’s question, and Yoon-ki shoots out a number of establishments that Hyun-woo may have gone to that could be considered cheating (massage parlors, kissing rooms, etc.), but Hyun-woo hasn’t even heard of half those places, so that’s out.
Yoon-ki goes for a different tactic, telling Hyun-woo to picture all the girls he’s met in his life that he found attractive. Hyun-woo starts listing a few (and Yoon-ki and Joon-young immediately start judging him for each one), but then insists that nothing happened with those women.
At a loss, Joon-young suggests that if there wasn’t a woman, was it a man? Heh, Hyun-woo joins the ranks of people calling Joon-young crazy this week.
The time’s come for Soo-yeon to head back home. Her father puts a few dollars in her pocket and tells her to bring Joon-soo out to visit soon. There’s no hug goodbye, but as Soo-yeon’s taxi pulls away, her father follows the car down the driveway, and Soo-yeon can’t hold back her tears.
Joon-young sends a private message to TUNAMAYO that night, telling about how his wife left him and how he’s been living a lie ever since. TUNAMAYO responds by encouraging him to tell his friends, even if some leave his for it: “Don’t be afraid. It might be a good chance to find out who’s most precious to you.”
Yoon-ki finally leaves the office for Okinawa, but he runs into Ara on the way out. Knowing that he didn’t have any hiking gear, she brought some for him. With no choice but to accept it, Yoon-ki shows up at the airport looking like a pack mule on the way to Everest.
Still looking for answers, Joon-young and Hyun-woo ask Bo-young if, to her knowledge, Hyun-woo has ever had an affair. Stumping both of them, she asks what kind of affair they mean. Joon-young argues that an affair is an affair, but Bo-young fires back that there are many different kinds, and even just having your heart flutter can be an form of one.
When Hyun-woo scoffs that every man has had an affair then, Bo-young points out that men don’t show interest in women they don’t want to sleep with, so something as simple as a dinner date could be the basis of an affair.
Hyun-woo reads back through the online posts. Everyone seems to be firmly on his side, saying he did nothing wrong, but Bo-young’s words replay in his head. He calls Soo-yeon’s dad again, and this time the man readily says that Soo-yeon is on her way home now. Hyun-woo breathes a giant sigh of relief.
Soo-yeon picks Joon-soo up, and the little boy asks if his mom is coming home now. The pair are joined by Hyun-woo, who answers that of course she should come home.
Bo-young and Joon-young share a drink and discuss whether Hyun-woo should get divorced. Bo-young can tell that Hyun-woo has great love for his wife and that he bases every decision he makes off of that, but she says that his problem is that he can’t find the right way to tell Soo-yeon how he feels.
Joon-young asks if she got her own divorce for the same reason, and Bo-young states (in her regular blasé fashion) that her husband cheated, so she left him. Joon-young barely has time to choke down this news before Bo-young hits him with her own question, “You don’t have a wife, do you?” Joon-young sits stunned as Bo-young guesses that the story he told about his wife leaving him was true.
Over in Okinawa, Yoon-ki’s conquest is successful, and he and the woman fall into bed together, both blissfully unaware of the typhoon making its way to the island’s coast.
Hyun-woo and Soo-yeon finally sit down to talk, and Hyun-woo apologizes if he ever hurt her by cheating in any way. He admits that he has thought about having an affair before, and if she considered that cheating, then he’s sorry for hurting her.
Soo-yeon doesn’t respond, so Hyun-woo pushes a bit, asking if she cheated for revenge. When she still doesn’t answer, Hyun-woo nearly begs her to tell him the reason, since he’s going crazy wondering what it is.
Soo-yeon slowly answers, “It just… It just happened.” Hyun-woo is understandably frustrated, saying that he thought they were doing well — so how could “it” have just happened?
Soo-yeon answers that she thought they were doing well too, but she never realized how thin she was stretching herself. We see flashes of her daily life as she describes how she went out of her way to smile and be relaxed even when she was exhausted. She adds that she was always running around to pick up Joon-soo and take care of their home while also having a career. She says that she thought that everyone lived like that, so it didn’t matter if she wasn’t particularly happy or unhappy.
It wasn’t until she met Sun-woo and he started noticing how overworked she was that things started to change, she claims. That a stranger could see what she couldn’t made her look at her life differently. He asked her what she wanted to do, and she realized she hadn’t thought about just herself in a long time.
Soo-yeon finishes, saying that she knows it isn’t an excuse. She apologizes again, and annoyed, Hyun-woo asks if she had an affair because he didn’t notice how tired she was. He says that that’s how it is for everyone, pointing out that he hasn’t had an easy life either, but he still makes an effort to help with Joon-soo and the house.
Soo-yeon tries to say that isn’t what she meant, but ends up just apologizing again, saying that she should have told him she was having a hard time. Still, she cries that she can’t face him anymore, and that it’s all too difficult. Taking a breath, she finally tells a stunned Hyun-woo, “Let’s just stop.”
The next day, Typhoon Hera crashes into Okinawa, and Yoon-ki’s new conquest snuggles happily into her morose lover. Realizing that there’s no way to fly back home in this storm, Yoon-ki breaks the fourth wall to whimper a weak “Dammit,” as the soundtrack plays, “This isn’t right, this isn’t right, this isn’t how life is supposed to go…”
COMMENTS
It’s sad to see that while Hyun-woo is fighting to hold on to his marriage and understand his wife, Soo-yeon just wants to end it. They’re both reflecting the different sides of a relationship that Bo-young and TUNAMAYO described: a spouse who gets angry still has love for their partner, while someone who calmly accepts the end no longer has any feelings for the other person. Hyun-woo may be hurt and furious with Soo-yeon, but he obviously still loves his wife and doesn’t want to lose her. He’s trying so hard to find a way to get past this that he’s even doubting his own faithfulness, desperately looking for a flaw in himself that could justify his wife’s infidelity. Soo-yeon’s decision to ask for a divorce seems to have shocked him out of his vindictive streak from last week, and now, in spite of her transgression, he’s attempting to work it out and hold onto his family.
In contrast, Soo-yeon is just done with the whole thing. There is no fire or passion to any of her actions, but rather a bleak acceptance that her marriage is over. After however many years of spreading herself too thin added to the stress of the affair coming out in the open, it appears that she would rather end everything and stop the pain rather than fight for whatever might be left. Even when she thought back on their early years together, there was no happiness at the memory — there was just a final sadness, as though it was already over.
I really don’t see the point of Yoon-ki anymore, especially since I’m now so disgusted by his philandering that the only comic relief he provides is when he’s physically injured. I know that he does give a view from the cheating side of the spectrum, but his views on adultery don’t exactly warrant the crazy amount of screen time he’s been getting, especially since his story line isn’t actually going anywhere. If Ara were any closer to discovering the truth or having an affair of her own, then I’d be somewhat invested in their plot line. But at this point, I’m more interested in finding out the identity of TUNAMAYO than watching Yoon-ki get a nosebleed from too much extramarital coitus.
In spite of that small complaint, I’m still loving how this show continues to give a real look at a husband who not only discovered his wife’s affair, but now has to face where their marriage and relationship goes from there. We all grow up hearing that if someone cheats on you, you leave them — no exceptions. But really, there is no template to follow in this situation: You do what is best for you and your partner or family. Sometimes, like TUNAMAYO said, the best you can do is pick the choice that leaves you with the fewest regrets. It may be painful and morally questionable, but life often is.
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1 mindy
November 21, 2016 at 8:16 PM
Yoon-ki got that Donald Trump chic going on with the orange skin
It's fitting. They both have absolutely no respect for women. I'm sure they'd get along swimmingly.
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Katherine
November 21, 2016 at 8:18 PM
I nearly choked on my drink whilst reading the first line lol. (So accurate though !)
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samantha1
November 21, 2016 at 8:28 PM
hahahaha..
I know I was about to type something serious..But then I read your comment..All was forgotten..
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fayyyy
November 21, 2016 at 11:09 PM
Every episode I keep cursing at the guy. For God's sake why he doesn't he just die? I sound like a sadist but it gives me immense pleasure watching him getting hurt lol. But how long would it take for the wife to stop hoping or caring and give him a run for his life.And his friends are more pathetic in being patronizing towards him.Especially when Hyun woo knows ara personally, smh.
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kirin
November 22, 2016 at 12:23 AM
You know, at first I found him amusing, because the way they represent it is so wacky, but now I'm just really sad for his wife. She deserves more from life than just be his servant. And that moment when I saw the similarities between him and Trump just made me have zero tolerance for his character. Seriously, can we skip all his parts and delete his character altogether? Please? I'm begging here.
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potatodrama
November 22, 2016 at 7:46 AM
I cannot believe this is the same man of "Angry Mom".
What a great actor indeed!
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2 azzo
November 21, 2016 at 8:31 PM
I so agree with you Candid clown, every time I see yoon-ki on the screen I get so mad and disgusted, I really don't know how a person can be like that, how can he be this low! And these women, how can they fall for that?! I can't watch him anymore, I just can't!
I feel for Hyun-woo, decisions are never easy when there are kids involved, and just when he decided to hear Soo-yeon and work this out, she made her decision and left him, I'm sure she thought a lot about it but I don't think that was enough, it was sad how he started questioning himself just to justify what Soo-yeon did!
I love Joon-young!
Thank you CandidClown for the recap.
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bigmomma12345
November 22, 2016 at 6:25 AM
I, too, dislike Yoon-Ki. He is disgusting and gross. But I also wonder what is driving him. Is he truly just a reprehensible man or is there an underlying pain driving him? It is entirely possible that he is just a cheating fool. But given the way this show is presenting the characters in their current states and then slowly revealing more about them, I wouldn't be surprised if they give him a reason for his philandering either. (But honestly, I would kind of prefer he just be a disgusting cheater because there isn't always a reason, some people are just cheaters.)
On a side note, as a still somewhat new-ish drama watcher, does JTBC always have such interesting character-driven dramas? I have really enjoyed the dramas I've seen from them this year and hate that they get low reviews because of being cable.
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mary
November 22, 2016 at 5:38 PM
JTBC don't have a lot of shows but theirs are usually... different? I don't know how to describe it. They have misses too. No channel is perfect. But your comment made me check the list of their dramas and I saw a lot more positives than bad ones in there.
I also see a lot of raves for their variety shows too.
If you're liking their offerings so far, you should check their old dramas. Cruel City and Yoona's Street are my favs. :)
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3 Questions
November 21, 2016 at 8:34 PM
Pretty sure Ara is Tunamayo
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samantha1
November 21, 2016 at 8:38 PM
That's what I was thinking right from the start too. She can't possibly be just using her phone for posting pictures...
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azzo
November 21, 2016 at 8:45 PM
Yup, that's what I think too!
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MapleSilver
November 21, 2016 at 8:47 PM
At one point I thought she even sounds like Ara. But since we don't really know the gender of Tuna Mayo it could also be Hyun Woo's boss.
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AnonymousCommenter
November 21, 2016 at 8:55 PM
I was thinking that it could be sooyeon, but after the most recent episode, i thought if its not her then who, why is there this mystery going around tunamayo for it to be brought twice. Then thought of all characters and i thought, it must be ara. She is the only one who we dont know much. It seems there will be a progression to yoonki ara couple, too.
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fayyyy
November 21, 2016 at 11:11 PM
Omg that totally makes sense! She has already got the poise factor..and added to that she's calm and composed all the time.
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foxleaps
November 22, 2016 at 4:35 AM
The woman whom they always show during the message board scenes -- the one who is sitting in the dark with something like a blanket over her head -- that definitely looks like Ara.
I always assumed we were being lead to believe that woman is TUNAMAYO, and that it was quite obvious it was Ara...?
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foxleaps
November 22, 2016 at 4:43 AM
(At any rate, considering the caliber of that actress and the nature of her previous roles, she'll be laying down the law sometime soon)
bigmomma12345
November 22, 2016 at 6:28 AM
Wow - Ara being TunaMayo did not even occur to me! Does this mean she had an affair? Because TM's posts seemed like they came from someone who had an affair themselves. I'll have to go back and review them - maybe I was misinterpreting them.
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potatodrama
November 22, 2016 at 7:47 AM
This is a really great theory.
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rentenmann
November 22, 2016 at 9:16 AM
PLEASE help! Am I right in thinking that her name in Korean is part of "I know"? I've heard "ara" and seen it subbed as "I know". Is that correct?
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MapleSilver
November 22, 2016 at 9:37 AM
I think you are correct.
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Time
November 22, 2016 at 11:22 AM
Pretty sure. Otherwise, there is almost no point and existance of this couple.
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MikoDee
November 22, 2016 at 12:48 PM
Yup, the first thing I thought. It has to be her. I'm so vexed with her philandering husband and wish she'd just break it off. This isn't a marriage.
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mary
November 22, 2016 at 5:40 PM
That's an awesome theory.
Then it'd be more awesome if she finally catches Yoon-ki cheating and instead of being the calm, pro-communication TUNAMAYO, she goes all-out war on his cheating ass. XD
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4 samantha1
November 21, 2016 at 8:44 PM
I just started watching this drama this weekend and I've been loving it so far especially the soundtrack. I would never get tired of listening to Urban Zakapa's I Don't Love You ♩ ♪ ♫ ♬ ♭
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Katherine
November 21, 2016 at 8:48 PM
THIS !! The circumstances in this show are depressing to say the least but the song choices and OST just helps add to it. I've got both Park Won's & Urban Zakapa's songs on repeat now or days.
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loveblossom
November 27, 2016 at 6:31 PM
Yesss their songs are so good! The whole OST has been great so far. I like 2BiC – Mr Trouble too.
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5 mint25
November 21, 2016 at 8:54 PM
To be honest, I find it hard not to feel for Soo-yeon. I don't want to excuse her actions or say that what she did was acceptable but she honestly does seem absolutely exhausted.
I know that Hyun-woo had his own issues with work and whatnot, but while he repeatedly says that he used to help Soo-yeon with the household chores, we don't really see much of that. And what little he does is blown out of proportion. Like in an earlier episode where he drops off his son at the bus stop, the women coo over him for being such a good father when he honestly just fulfilled a responsibility that ever parent has. Hyun-woo may have used those praises or similar things to inflate his ego, because "unlike other men" he helped around the house. Soo-yeon had to run to pick up Joon-soo after school, had to cook, had to constantly chat and interact with the other mothers. This may be what is expected because "everyone lives this way" but it doesn't mean it's right.
I just think that we're being a little harsh on Soo-yeon without really knowing the full picture because Hyun-woo clearly has his share of faults, and while that doesn't mean Soo-yeon's affair is alright, he isn't really the ideal husband he painted himself to be. And I'm happy that he's starting to realize that and is perhaps willing to work on his marriage.
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bakedpotato
November 21, 2016 at 10:23 PM
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anya
November 21, 2016 at 10:56 PM
I agree that people are being a tad harsh. I think her desire to end their relationship is not that she wants to end it. She can't find a way to rebuild since she's so guilt-ridden. What happens when your life finally overwhelms you to the breaking point of having an affair? Not due to a cheating spouse, but perhaps one who neglected as time wore on? It doesn't justify her actions yet her reason is understandable (though not necessarily relatable). She would have to forgive herself before making it work again with her husband.
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Sera The Ms Temper
November 22, 2016 at 12:04 AM
She is a symbol of exhausted woman. It is sad to see her actually while being mad at her.
Man is simple-minded, but woman is more complex. Man won't be able to understand woman unless woman expressing herself, and also the same the other way around.
Both need to work on their marriage, communicating and understanding are the key point to save their relationship. I personally disagree with her decision to end their marriage without trying to do something.
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amarawrrr
November 22, 2016 at 3:42 AM
The problem with his statement that "Everyone is exhausted" and "Everyone lives that way" is that he is not part of that "everyone" he is making reference to.
Like you said, he feels that he has earned himself the title of a good husband because he has chipped in and helped out with some of the house chores and child rearing, etc. But what he (and a lot of people) don't realise is there's a difference between helping out because it's part of your responsibility to do so and helping out when it is convenient for you to help out.
Because at the end of the day when it is not convenient for either one of them to carry out their responsibility as parents, Soo Yeon is the one obliged to fetch their child amidst busy schedule, or hold up her work to go back and cook for the family or do the laundry and put their child to bed despite the exhaustion and the pending workload.
And the saddest part of all of this is the fact that she (and scarily many people) believes she doesn't really have the right to complain because all this is essentially what a Mom/wife is supposed to do anyways. You getting a "good husband" who "helps out" is a privilege you need to thank your lucky stars for getting.
So is it that surprising that she is so obtuse and reluctant to explain herself when she feels like her excuse for her affair is simply invalid?
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Time
November 22, 2016 at 12:27 PM
Strongly agree on this.
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mint25
November 22, 2016 at 9:48 PM
Damn, that pretty much summarized all of my feelings in a much more coherent way :)
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Lc
November 22, 2016 at 4:29 AM
Totally agree with you about hyun woo. He may say that his life and challenges are hard for him, but it's on a totally different level compared to soo yeon's. His problems are related to physical and mental fatigue from having to hold a job and helping around the house. But these are also problems for all soo yeon, who on top of that the responsibility of managing their son's education and emotional well being falls solely on her shoulders. Otherwise why is she the one who has to suck up to the other mothers for her son's benefit?
The divide is already pronounced when hyun woo in last episode had the gall to tell his wife that her being pushed aroundby the other mothers was due to her wanting to look superior to non working mothers, and that it's ALL her fault her son is being excluded socially. Come on, this is the sort of thing only an insensitive husband or one who's deluded about his level of involvement would say. A really involved husband would work out a solution with his wife instead of just pointing fingers at her when he sees a problem.
Sorry if I come across as ranting, because hyun woo's speech last episode hit a nerve with me because I heard one in a similar vein years ago from my dad to my mum. Lucky for her my mum had a comeback which shut up my dad for good. But soo yeon has yet to learn it, poor thing.
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thatstp
November 22, 2016 at 8:29 PM
Completely agree however I think that it's not that Soo Yeon hasn't learned to have a voice. She seems to be taking all of Hyun Woo's abuse because she feels she deserves it. She knows she was wrong and is just trying to take her punishment.
By the end of this episode and the next I completely lost all sympathy, though I admit I didn't have much, for Hyun Woo. I understand that he is hurt but to degrade and verbally attack Soo Yeon the way his does is ridiculous. Then he has the audacity to be surprised and offended that she decided to file for divorce.
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vas140030
November 22, 2016 at 1:06 PM
I agree on how Soo Yeon has to do more than Hyun Woo does because that's how a mother's "supposed" to behave and agree that that can and does completely exhaust her but I will never understand how she didn't say anything to him. Her expectation that he'll just know is pretty ridiculous because how can he just know? It just doesn't make sense to me that her next choice of action was to cheat instead of telling him what was wrong especially since we saw him ask her if she was upset/angry in the first ep after he couldn't pick up the kid and she just smiled and said everything was okay. That's why I can't really feel sympathetic to her.
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blnmom
November 22, 2016 at 3:47 PM
I do not in any way condone her cheating.
But I have a feeling that she probably did try to tell him before that she needed more help around the house and with the kid, and he just wrote her off, so she just stopped trying. Now she's dead tired of trying, and she knows it's not an excuse for cheating anyway, so she just wants to end it.
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AsianDrama16
November 22, 2016 at 2:04 PM
@Mint25 @amarawrrr
Agree with you. Hyunwoo is apparently the sympathetic character, but, in fact, he comes across as arrogant and shallow. As you've both said, Sooyeon is actually the victim in a society with a double standard that severely penalizes women for wanting both a career and a family. Her husband, who should be the most supportive, is simply an extension of society's expectations. When she meets a man who seems to appreciate her, he becomes her sanctuary, and she falls for him. The dramatic irony, which makes this story somewhat interesting, is the fact that Sooyeon, too, doesn't fully understand her motives and feels guilty. The real culprit in this drama, by extension, is the audience, who are part of a society that has no sympathy for women.
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Romama
November 24, 2016 at 10:42 AM
I agree with everything that has been said regarding Soo Yeon and how she's been forced into a tight corner by the expectations/ double standards of society. Also, I would like to point out that this expectation of a women's role compared to a man's role is a key theme that has been presented throughout the series. From Bo Young asking the question of why men are so easily forgiven when they cheat compared to women, to why there is the theme that when a wife cheats that the husband should feel ashamed of being cheated on (because he wasn't the one who cheated instead). Why is it, as Hyun Woo's mom has emphasized, that just because Soo Yeon is a mother that she has less right to choose for herself what she wants? Soo Yeon as a character is so tied down by all the roles that she has to play constantly - perhaps some might bash her for choosing to 'cheat', but it was her way of taking a little control back into her life. And she's still under pressure to hide it - because society puts monogamy on a pedestal. Right now, I just hope Soo Yeon doesn't give a shit about what anyone thinks (whether to give up the marriage or to stay on), and make the best decision that is for herself.
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6 Chandler
November 21, 2016 at 8:58 PM
ROFL. Just scrolling down through all of Lee Sang-yeob's screencaps is all it takes for me to lose it. His expressions are priceless. I'm officially waiting for the day he'll be a lead in his own rom-com. It better come soon.
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fayyyy
November 21, 2016 at 11:16 PM
Me too. Him and the writer are the next best thing after hyun woo. And his expressions are impeccable. But have to say this show totally upgraded him one level after that debacle of the noodles show.
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Sera The Ms Temper
November 22, 2016 at 12:08 AM
I liked him in Master of Noodles way better than the main lead. So far he is quite versatile - he was also great (and creepy) as a psychopath killer in Signal. Who can even imagine he in Signal and here is the same person?
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samantha1
November 22, 2016 at 12:16 AM
Those episodes in Signal where he had acted as the killer were my favorite ones. Those were hauntingly heartbreaking.
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lunatic4kd
November 22, 2016 at 8:41 PM
Wah??? He was the killer in Signal???? WOW! Just Wow! What a great actor. He's totally my favorite here.
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Lord Cobol
November 22, 2016 at 11:30 PM
Yes, he was the serial killer who buried all those women on the mountainside...
...kinda creates room for an alternate explanation of why his wife disappeared :)
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samantha1
November 21, 2016 at 11:20 PM
Haha.I'll be here just waiting for that to happen. I'm sorry but I always laugh whenever he cries like a lost puppy. He's just so adorable.
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MapleSilver
November 22, 2016 at 8:58 PM
Me, too. His ridiculous sobbing next to LSK's deadpan question of whether he is crying because he is pitying him again is totally a LOL moment for me.
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Sera The Ms Temper
November 22, 2016 at 12:06 AM
I always have soft spot for him, and his role here is just too adorable.
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Gabobobobo
November 22, 2016 at 12:18 AM
Ditto! He's adorable and hilarious, plus we already saw his emotional and subtle acting in some cameo roles.
Love his character's dynamic with Bo-Young and Hyun-Woo (sometime with Yoon-Ki, too!).
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blnmom
November 22, 2016 at 3:55 PM
He was a lead in a rom-com, a weekender called A Little Love Never Hurts. You can watch it on Viki, it's pretty good!
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7 lunatic4kd
November 21, 2016 at 9:07 PM
Many questions I have about Soo-yeon and her crazy-making inability to express her emotions were answered in the scenes with her father. Talk about stoic, reserved, withheld and unemotional!! He never asked her what was wrong, preferring just to be around her quietly. That's all fine when you need quiet but when you need the hammer of tough love to crash upon your head to at least get you TALKING, it's the people you love and trust who can do that for you. No wonder she retreats and can't speak up for herself. What a crippling example of a father she has. People like Soo-yeon and her father and other people I've known who do nothing but smile, take care of others, act like martyrs and say "I'm sorry" ad nauseum all the time drive me absolutely NUTS. I say this so freely because I used to be one of those people. It took me until my 30's to totally grow out of it. Now Hyun-woo has to realize how he can save his wife and his marriage by taking charge and rescuing her from herself. I hope he does because I'm tired of yelling at my computer screen.
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8 lazielizard
November 21, 2016 at 9:08 PM
Oh Sooyeon.. I really felt for her this ep. Just the whole part of her going to see her father really tugged at my heart. And when she finally broke down in tears as she was driven away in the taxi.. man. I suppose I might feel more for her than a lot of people just for the sake that she comes off as so human. Not that the other characters don't, they do. It's just that I am still rooting for her character. I honestly don't wish anything bad on her.
My whole feeling here is that she too is human and makes mistakes. yeah I know really simple maybe too simple.. but the thing is I see myself in her as well..and I can't hate myself..I mean I can, but I choose not to. Here's the thing, I believe she is aware of how her affair has thrown her family's world upside down and she seems to be trying to take responsibility for it. That doesn't mean we will understand what she thinks she should do..she is just trying to get through. I suppose I also feel for her because she lost herself and the outing of the affair put it all into perspective. Being a mother, wife, employee..that isn't all there is to life..but an affair was not going to solve her problems and I think she knows that now. Anyway I just really enjoyed watching Sooyeon in this ep..twisted my heart that's for sure.
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9 Heroonthebeach
November 21, 2016 at 9:28 PM
Post (1/2)
Have blogged about this episode at https://kdramaanalysis.wordpress.com/2016/11/20/my-wife-is-having-an-affair-this-week-episode-7/
Also wanted to include in the comments what I have written about Hyun Woo and Soo Yeon:
"Things are still not looking good for Hyun Woo and Soo Yeon and the prospect of them getting back together is a distant reality. Even though they finally have their first heart to heart conversation, it reveals that the issues between them are much deeper than just the affair and also how far apart they have grown. This show certainly isn't one to settle for easy answers or reconciliations and with each episode, it just keeps digging deeper into issues of marriage, loyalty and women's identity.
While Hyun Woo did display some growth in the previous episode by deciding to have a proper conversation with Soo Yeon, his perspective on what went wrong between them still hasn't matured much. As shown in this episode, he is fixated on the affair and still fails to look beyond that into their marital issues. When Soo Yeon poses him a question of whether he has had an affair before, he is momentarily stumped and he asks all those around him if they think he's had an affair before, admitting to Yoon-ki that he jumped a little at the question. While Yoon-ki is clear that he is cheating on Ara, Hyun Woo's behaviour may be even worse than him because he is not even aware of his interactions with the opposite sex. He confesses to Yoon-ki and Joon Young that there have been three women that he took out for meals and drinks. He calls one of them cute, compares his relationship with the other one with Joon Young and Bo Young and he even went to a Busan film festival with the last one. All the while, he dismisses his interactions with these three women as "affairs", but imagine how Soo Yeon would have responded if she had seen him?
While both Joon Young and Bo Young dismiss Hyun Woo's examples as having an affair, it's Bo Young who provokes Hyun Woo into deep thought when she says:
But whether it’s a man or woman, an affair is about giving the body and the mind. It’s not sleeping or physical contact, but it’s the step before getting there, isn’t it? Women consider it an affair from the mid-stage. - Bo Young
This leads Hyun Woo to realise that his previous behaviour may have constituted an affair, which I personally think it did. He's no less guilty of having his heart roam from the marriage when compared to Soo Yeon. While Joon-ki's interactions with the other women are purely physical, Hyun Woo's interactions with the other women were emotional and intellectual - both of which constitute an affair. However, even when he finally apologises to Hyun Woo, there's an element of denial as he says to her, "if that's what you consider an affair, yes it means I had an affair", instead of outright apologising for the affair.
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10 Heroonthebeach
November 21, 2016 at 9:30 PM
Post 2/2
"He then goes on to ask her if she had an affair to take revenge
, but he's so far off from the truth. He even says that she's been doing well as the perfect wife and mum and everyone's been jealous of him. However, he fails to realise it's precisely that pressure of maintaining her reputation as perfect wife, mum and career woman that caused her to become stretched so thin. The affair started when Sun-Woo gave her something that Hyun Woo never did - the gift of freedom. He gives her two hours that are wholly hers, so that she can finish a book in her handbag that she's never been able to start. He also gives her the attention that she's never had from Hyun Woo by observing something about her she's never noticed.
Moving away from the show itself, I'd like to add that Soo Yeon's situation is completely convincing and very real. Parenthood is an all-absorbing endeavour that requires so much of you - you completely lose any time for yourself and just doing something as simple as reading 30 pages of a book becomes a rare luxury. This is something I've experienced and also witnessed my wife going through. As husband and wife, we need to intentionally help to protect that sense of "thaselfhood" of each other by giving each other time to continue to pursue our own interests. Having walked the path myself, I completely understood what Soo Yeon was sharing.
While Soo Yeon's story does not absolve her of any guilt, it's clear by the end of her sharing that she is immensely sorry for what she has done. She keeps apologising, telling Hyun Woo that she should have gone to him first. Hyun Woo's response to her story once again misses the mark completely, as he tells her this is what everyone goes through. However, this is evidently not the case for him as he has had the freedom to choose when he can pick up his kid and even gone on dinners and drinks with the women mentioned earlier. Sun-woo was very likely the only friend that Soo Yeon had, ever since they had kids. At the end of it, Soo Yeon says that she can no longer face Hyun Woo and she's not sure it's guilt. Yes, she's right, it's more complex than that. It's emotional estrangement and distance - she should have told him how she felt, but from what we have witnessed, he shows no interest in genuinely understanding her situation, always imposing his understanding on her. It could also be physical withdrawal, as we've not witnessed a single hint of physical intimacy between the two of them. There's also a sense of entrapment, because facing Hyun Woo again reminds her of all the roles she has to play to keep up that perfect image. There could also be betrayal, because Hyun Woo has not kept his promise made during the only sweet scene between them of the series so far, where he promised her that they will still make them to watch the stars even when the kid comes. It's so multi-layered and complex and I applaud the show for laying bare all these issues that...
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11 Heroonthebeach
November 21, 2016 at 9:38 PM
Sorry didn't mean to spam, but wanted to include my final paragraph on their relationship because it's also something that I feel the show falls short in episode 8.
"The challenge I foresee for the show is how to tie all these emotional issues together in a satisfactory manner. And this is where I once again express my desire for the show to bring both of them together because divorce would really be the easy way out for the show as well. Getting both of them to divorce would mean the show does not have to resolve all the issues it has surfaced between Hyun Woo and Soo Yeon. It would be far more satisfactory and arguably even groundbreaking if the show chose to take the more meaningful route and show us how a couple can work through such issues. It would also be disappointing if they just came back together for the sake of Joo Soon and swept all their issues under the carpet, because we all know that that’s also a recipe for disaster. The show has done well so far in revealing all the issues leading to their distancing; it now has the challenging task of exploring the reconciliation process meaningfully."
My full blog post also contains my thoughts on Yoon Ki, Joon Young and the production aspects. The full post is https://kdramaanalysis.wordpress.com/2016/11/20/my-wife-is-having-an-affair-this-week-episode-7/
Thanks for reading.
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Lc
November 22, 2016 at 3:17 PM
Wow, wonderful post.
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loveblossom
November 27, 2016 at 6:54 PM
Liked reading your analysis. Thanks for sharing!
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12 vas140030
November 21, 2016 at 9:45 PM
This is the first time I've actually felt compelled enough to write a comment on here but oh my goodness this show is getting on my nerves. I'm really tired of her repeatedly saying "It's my fault, I take responsibility" like what does that even mean????? All she does is leave the house, undermine the things that Hyun Woo wants, and threatens to take the kid. It's getting to be too much. I was really hoping for a valid reason for her to cheat - not that it would ever be acceptable but at least something that doesn't make her such a selfish person. Hyun Woo makes a really good point that his life was hard too, he felt lonely and overwhelmed too but he didn't go run to the next girl and sleep with them because of it. It's especially upsetting because you know that if he never caught her, she would STILL be cheating.
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hana
November 21, 2016 at 9:52 PM
I was really put off by her question have you ever cheated on me? Like what???? It's not tit for tat here, even if he had cheated that does not then validate you having an affair. It was just such an odd question for her to ask. Like asking the time of day, what so you've never cheated on me?? No, he hasn't. maybe he was a bit blind to her struggle but thats not entirely his fault. At any moment she could have went to him and say I'm exhausted , I'm at my limit I need a vacation or help but she didn't. She always had a choice, she made the choice to have an affair while claiming she also wanted to stay married. Only now that she's caught she can't handle the backlash and has given up. If you can't handle the consequences then don't do the action.
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vas140030
November 22, 2016 at 1:57 AM
Idk I feel like /had/ he cheated on her and she revenge cheated I would understand her more. It wouldn't necessarily absolve her of anything but it would 100% make me more sympathetic and w/ how he was acting it might've even pushed me to her side but it was just so unbelievably selfish. And re: her not speaking up, that's exactly what I'm saying!! Like he's not a mind reader, he's not automatically going to know that you're having a tough time esp if when he asks you you're not going to say anything!! That's what's really jarring to me, that even before he saw that text he asked her if everything was alright and if she was mad/disappointed with him but she just smiled and pretended everything was okay. Like????????
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thatstp
November 22, 2016 at 9:19 PM
"maybe he was a bit blind to her struggle but thats not entirely his fault. At any moment she could have went to him and say I’m exhausted , I’m at my limit I need a vacation or help but she didn’t."
If he was half of the great husband he thinks he is he should have went to her and said "I know you carry most of the load here everyday, why don't you take a day off. Go to the spa. I'll take our son for some male bonding." That is why Sun Woo caught her eye. He took notice of how hard she works at everything and realized she didn't even have time to read a book. Hyun Woo only asked to spend time with her after he saw the texts.
He came home with a half ass apology about why he didn't pick their son up then to assuage his guilt he asked he to turn around and give him a smile. Seriously?
She was wrong to have an affair but Soo Yeon shouldn't be the only one doing self reflection. Hyun Woo is self centered only worrying about his needs and basking in the glow of the other moms. He may be better than their husbands but that doesn't make him perfect.
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gala
November 22, 2016 at 12:13 AM
"I’m really tired of her repeatedly saying “It’s my fault, I take responsibility” like what does that even mean?????"
But you know what, this is how it is in "real" life, or at least what I've experienced. I've had a boyfriend who cheated on me, and when found out, all he could do is apologize and claim it's his fault. he was attracted and couldn't resist, but he claimed he still wanted to be with me. hence, he gave in to moments of temptation. it was a lame excuse, but that's human nature. and as the popular Rihanna song goes, cheaters (most of them) are only sorry they got caught.
and I think that's why the show can be frustrating. it hits a nerve because we know these things happen to common people.
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vas140030
November 22, 2016 at 2:01 AM
But what I'm saying is how is she going to take responsibility for her actions? By getting angry at him? Undermining his wants based on her wants? My entire point is that she isn't really taking responsibility at all, she's making herself out to be the victim as if she shouldn't be responsible for her actions and her "taking responsibility" is some grand burden that she should be respected for shouldering.
Also sorry about your ex(?) boyfriend, what a dick.
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gem28
November 22, 2016 at 6:26 AM
So Yeon is the kind who function well when things run their way. She'd probably be happy forever being a super mom/wife/career -woman and carry on her affair as long as she could. Her whole ceux of existence so far seems to revolve around keeping up that impossible appearance intact while doing things her way. Her moral barometer works with a twist, that is, "It's okay to exhaust myself beyond my limit bring perfect and as long as nobody looks, its not cheating". Now that at least in one facet of her life that illusion is gone, she is ready to cut it off. Hyun Woo is not perfect but he really needs to let go of her. She is done with the marriage, him fighting for it is his right but will only make her more unhappy.
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vas140030
November 22, 2016 at 1:08 PM
But should he have to sacrifice his and his kid's happiness and stability just so she can be happy? If he does then he's a much better person than me but if he doesn't, I completely understand that.
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thatstp
November 22, 2016 at 9:01 PM
Hyun Woo's life was hard too? The problem with his statement that his life was hard and he was lonely too is that he didn't/doesn't appreciate the things his wife does or goes through. He forgot to pick his son up from daycare and by the time he realizes it it's late but does he call and apologize or even call to see if his wife picked the kid up? No, he comes in and helps his son put on pajamas. Soo Yeon rushed from work, picked him up, cooked dinner and bathed him. He walks his son to the bus stop in the morning...BIG WHOOP! Soo Yeon has woke him up, got him dressed and cooked breakfast before leaving for work. The LEAST he could do is walk him to the bus stop.
Undermine Hyun Woo's wants? So Soo Yeon should make sure he feels better by letting him scream and degrade her with every one sided conversation he wants to have. She should once again put his and the son's happiness first at the expense of her own.
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13 MapleSilver
November 21, 2016 at 11:50 PM
I often just skim over recap and read only the recapper's comments section, but CandidClown, I am so glad I didn't this time. Whether intentionally or not, your recap is hilarious, especially when it comes to Joon Young. You almost make it sound like this episode's focus is Joon Young; who is super adorkable by the way.
But onto more serious matter, I have read pretty much everything said out there about this drama, but how amazing is it that there does not seem to be an end to this well of connections or insights people have with this story. I am thoroughly pleased to discover that you, too, are offering some nuggets of truth I had not read before. I love that about this drama.
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CandidClown
November 22, 2016 at 1:46 AM
D'aww, thanks! Joon-young's my favorite ?
It seems like every week my opinion changes on this show, so it's great to have a new topic to talk about each time!
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14 Sera The Ms Temper
November 22, 2016 at 12:21 AM
I dont have even slightly interest with Yoon Ki, but he sure has a disease or whatever it may call, because his obsession is the worst. He never satisfy with one woman to cheat with. I bet at the end he probably will suffer sexual disease.
Joon Young is sure cutely crazy. lmao.
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samantha1
November 22, 2016 at 12:28 AM
During the latest episodes, I mostly skip the scenes of the mistresses's man. I know Ara can do something to make him pay from all those obsessions her had and I'm eagerly waiting for it. I kinda remember Ye Ji Won's character in Another Miss Oh and what she did with Jin Sang's women..Her husband here seriously needs some heck of waking up..
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15 Dorotka
November 22, 2016 at 3:18 AM
I'm frustrated with both of them. Basically Hyunwoo never listens ans Sooyeon never talks.
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AsianDrama16
November 22, 2016 at 2:14 PM
@Dorotka
In a nutshell, you nailed it.
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16 Lx
November 22, 2016 at 3:27 AM
At least she knows that it isn't right for her to use that(having a hard time) as an excuse to have an affair. To be fair, even if Soo Yeon did speak up and told Hyun Woo that she was having a hard time (before this whole affair thing started), he might have just brushed it off like how he did when they finally sat down to talk in this ep. To be honest, I'm amazed that Soo Yeon has yet to reach her breaking point, considering the workload and amount of stress that she has to handle. She had been suppressing it for too long and with no one to confide to, I guess from her pov, Sun Woo was like an 'emotional comfort shelter' (if this even make sense) to her.
On a side note, I'm shipping Bo Young and Joon Young so badly. And Yoon Ki's parts = skip, skip, skip (unless Ara appears. Hah.)
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AsianDrama16
November 22, 2016 at 2:22 PM
@Lx
"I’m amazed that Soo Yeon has yet to reach her breaking point, considering the workload and amount of stress that she has to handle."
Good point. I think she had just reached it when Sunwoo came along. He was her lifeline. The affair kept her sane.
The message is that Sooyeon is the victim, and her tormentors are all those who condone the kind of stress that she was under -- including Hyunwoo.
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Jazz
November 23, 2016 at 2:42 AM
I'm a bit confused by this argument though. If she was being driven insane, why stay in the marriage? Why not break it off cleanly? Why cheat? Does it give her satisfaction to have two men in her life?
And what makes this even weirder is if that guy was her lifeline, why did he just leave her like that?
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AsianDrama16
November 23, 2016 at 4:45 PM
@Jazz
"If she was being driven insane, why stay in the marriage? Why not break it off cleanly? Why cheat? Does it give her satisfaction to have two men in her life?"
It begins to make sense when we assume that Sooyeon, too, has bought into the idea that a woman should be able to manage both career and family with little or no help from hubby. She thinks there's something wrong with her -- not society. When Sunwoo comes along, all she knows is that he makes her feel better about herself. In other words, she doesn't understand her own motivation.
"And what makes this even weirder is if that guy was her lifeline, why did he just leave her like that?"
Sooyeon never says that she loves Sunwoo, and Sunwoo never says that he loves Sooyeon. We don't really know Sunwoo's motivation, but based on what we've seen of his wife, I think we can see why he might be attracted to Sooyeon. His wife's is scary.
But we do know Sooyeon's motivation. She's stressed out and headed for a breakdown but doesn't realize it. For her, Sunwoo is a refuge, a place to feel safe. If Hyunwoo really loves Sooyeon, he would have honored his vows and protected her. Instead, he's unwittingly also one of her tormentors.
The fact that Hyunwoo is unaware of her desperation is an indictment not only of Hyunwoo but of all husbands who take their wives for granted and are insensitive to their needs.
We can argue that Sooyeon should have talked to her husband and shared her problem, but, as I said earlier, she, too, has been brainwashed into thinking that she shouldn't complain, that she should be able to tough it out.
This doesn't excuse Sooyeon for her adultery, but it makes her a lot more sympathetic, and it sends a message to society in general and couples in particular that they mustn't take each other for granted and should communicate when they feel stressed.
Of course, the key to communication is openness, and from what we've seen of Hyunwoo, this isn't one of his strengths. He's self-righteous and too quick to judge. In this crisis, he should have been willing to listen to Sooyeon and say, "To hell with what society says. I'll take on a more proactive role in raising Joonsoo even if it means being less involved at work and telling my mom to chill."
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17 Meli
November 22, 2016 at 4:49 AM
Well... I think this drama series is not as interesting as the front 4 episodes. I fell asleep after watching this episode in the middle... I can't think of why, yoon ki is even a character in there... Sigh..
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18 yeah
November 22, 2016 at 6:22 AM
what a lame excuse to cheat, her life is hard so she chose to cheat with a married man who noticed her. what a WHORE
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myo2409
November 22, 2016 at 6:45 AM
Can the admins remove this? It's offensive
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lazielizard
November 22, 2016 at 11:28 AM
+1
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19 Kristine
November 22, 2016 at 6:49 AM
Honestly, I think they should split up. I know there are a lot of opinions on this, but to me if you're thinking about/attracted to one person while being married to another, then you don't love your partner (call me old fashioned). And if you don't notice when they're in pain or how they feel, then you're not giving them the love they deserve, either. Hyun Woo thinks he's the perfect husband, but in reality I feel he's very self-centered. If you're in a relationship with someone you really love, their feelings are just as important as your own. Hyun Woo seems to adore his "smiling wife" but he never notices her pain. She seems to exist for him, in his way of thinking. And he'd thought about having an affair, which took him down a couple of points in my book. If you ask me, they've both gone through suffering and need to split up peacefully. You could argue they need to stay together for the sake of their child, but children notice more than adults realize--and the tension and separation felt in that house could create an unhealthy environment just as splitting up might. And beyond all that--marriage is work, and they should've put more into it than they did, rather than letting things get to this kind of mess. So--those are pretty unorganized thoughts, but I felt it was just a side of this discussion that hasn't been really voiced much. This drama sure does well in making people think :)
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AsianDrama16
November 22, 2016 at 2:35 PM
@Kristine
Splitting up is definitely an option, but then there wouldn't be much of a story. We have a story when the couple learns from their mistakes and, against all odds, forms an even stronger bond. Splitting is the easy way out. Trying to put the pieces together and making the marriage work is tough -- really tough.
In a weird sort of way, Sooyeon's affair was a desperate effort to save her marriage and her family. It was a way to keep from breaking down, to maintain the status quo. From this perspective, we could conclude that she not only loves Hyunwoo but wants to stay together.
Yeah, I know, it's herd to wrap your head around this idea, but it's worth thinking about.
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20 potatodrama
November 22, 2016 at 7:50 AM
The show keeps getting better, but at this point, I'm just shipping Bo-young and Joon-young soooooooo bad!!!
This guy is a gem!
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21 heroonthebeach
November 22, 2016 at 7:54 AM
There seems to be growing resentment with Soo Yeon and her lack of responsibility for what happened and repeatedly just saying she's sorry. While I still sympathise with her at this point, I do feel that the show needs to show us more of what she's thinking. Her character seems to be stuck in a rut at the moment, and we're only focusing on Hyun Woo's journey.
Have blogged earlier on the episode here: https://kdramaanalysis.wordpress.com/2016/11/20/my-wife-is-having-an-affair-this-week-episode-7/
Once again, reading the comments have led me to think more deeply about Soo Yeon's role in all this, whereas I have very much always been focusing on Hyun Woo's role in the marriage. Thanks everyone!
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22 Kasumi
November 22, 2016 at 12:41 PM
This is a great show. The characters portrayed in the drama are very realistic. I find myself comparing the comments for this show and the comments on "on the way to the airport." I find soo-yeon and su-ah to be similar characters. Both at working moms struggling to balance work and personal lives. Both have insensitive husbands (although su-ah's husband is in a different category). Both are stoic and have trouble recognizing that they are stretching themselves thin. Both have trouble communicating with their husbands and finally both have an affair with a married man. While in OTTWTTA the show/writer shows su-ah's perspective and we see her journey, in TWMWWHAA we see the husband's perspective. This key change seems to make a lot of difference. While most commenters were sympathetic to su-ah's infidelity most commenters view soo-yeon's infidelity harshly. Unlike su-ah's relationship with do-woo, we don't get to see soo-yeon's relationship as a "soulmate romance". We didn't get to see grand romantic gestures or emotionally wrenching moments (here's looking at Annie's death) in how soo-yeon's affair with sun-woo happened. We got a simple text. I also find the concept of "it might be justifiable to cheat if you spouse is an abuser/cheater" interesting. Su-ah's infidelity is viewed postively (even encouraged) because her husband is horrible and the man she cheated with had a horrible wife, while soo-yeon's infidelity is considered terrible because her husband was generally nice to her and sun-woo's wife is not portrayed as a witch. Sun-woo's wife makes the statement "it's a romance if it happens to me but an affair if it happens to others". While the audience is forced to identify with su-ah by showing her perspective in OTTWTTA, here we are outside and see what is happening to soo-yeon and Hyun-woo from the "it's happening to others" perspective. This is the genius of the show. It shows us how depending upon different perspectives we can come to different conclusions about the same/similar event. The show even hints at it by showing us how the different online TOYCRANE commenters respond to Hyun-woo's posts and TUNAMAYO's posts.
I can understand soo-yeon. She just needed a little bit of moral support. I think she stretched herself too thin not because she wanted to be superwoman but because she genuinely wanted to do everything for her husband and child while being a good employee. Hyun-woo took her for granted a lot. To him she was the "pretty and perfect" wife and you can see he took pride in her being able to juggle everything without asking too much from him. Sometimes you just need someone to see you and not you in relation to them.
I don't know if they will be able to work out their problems. But I'm interested in seeing how it ends. Also, I really hope that Bo-young and Joon-young end up together :)
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AsianDrama16
November 22, 2016 at 2:44 PM
@Kasumi
Best review of "My Wife" I've read thus far.
Also, you've piqued my curiosity about "On the Way." I think I'll watch it.
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23 Time
November 22, 2016 at 12:43 PM
I like this show in the sense that this feel so real. Real life, real people, real emotion and real possibility. It frustrating because it hit the nerve that this is life. The cheating case does not have to go all drama, clear and loud. It could be quiet, pathetic and grey.
Each family is unique. We all have our own problem, background, culture and personality. Combine each of us with another person who equally unique, we would have the unique family in all the world.
So I think no standard could be used to clearly judge on any family or person. There is no certain solution and time to solve certain family problem.
We could get frustrated and point finger on how they should do. But in the end, we may just need to sit back and see how the show want us to see the solution of this particular case whether we agree or not.
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24 bodybyzaatar
November 22, 2016 at 2:49 PM
Can I get just applaud the writers for naming the typhoon "Hera"?
As in, the vengeful wife of the god Zeus who goes out of her way to punish her husband's lovers? *kisses fingers* Perfection.
Here's to hoping Ara will go full Hera on Yoon-ki's ass.
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An
November 22, 2016 at 3:09 PM
I'm sure she will. And I hope it'll be as soon as possible because I've been pretty much fast forwarding almost all of Yoon-ki's scenes with his mistresses.
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MapleSilver
November 22, 2016 at 3:50 PM
I did not catch that. Thank you for pointing that out. You're right, this is perfection!
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loveblossom
November 27, 2016 at 7:01 PM
Hahaha! Thanks for pointing that out. xD
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25 Franbergh II
November 22, 2016 at 6:46 PM
If only the actor playing yoon ki is some hot actor, i'll hate him. Luckly he's the one who beating up Go bok dong, so i'm expecting him to hurt a lot.
And joon young is my fav. He reminds me a lot to byun yo han in exgf club. And his spontaneous + his great love for hyun woo is so adorable ?
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26 nomnom
November 23, 2016 at 12:52 AM
This show has totally got me.. I didn't expect anything in the beginning.. But now here i am, cursing on Yoon Ki,praises Bo Young and loving Joon Young..
But for Hyun Woo and Soo Yeong, come on guys only you both can solve this problem. Put your egos aside, try to talk heart to heart , listen to understand not to reply..
And the least but not last, our poor Joon Soo :( This little guy knows what is going on, but he couldn't say anything ,even asking his father to protects his mother .. oohh boy :( :(
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27 LokLok
November 23, 2016 at 4:28 PM
Personally, I think there is no real need to excuse the wife. Having an affair is a choice. Life can be hard, husband can be non-receptive, but having an affair is a choice. I am sure she won't be having an affair if the other person is not attractive. I think in general women is probably the stronger gender, and actually more able to handle work, family and self. The tough part is to fight against the desires.
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28 reellife
December 5, 2016 at 9:14 AM
Reading all the comments led me to think that we need a more accurate and balanced perspective of the situation leading up to the betrayal.
1. Was SY overloaded with parenting and work responsibilities?
Definitely and it was obvious. But, it didn't give her license to have an affair. If the asked, HW does help grudgingly. Also, HW has a wider social network for help. Her mother-in-law also helps, that was how she could visit her father. And she could have asserted herself more at work and parent circle.
I believe SY expected too much of herself and was too perfectionistic.
Apparently, SY found time and created opportunities to carry on an affair with SW - they apparently made out in the hotel at least once but was discovered the second time and when SW dropped SY off after a date. If she could find excuses and time these rendezvous, it show that she had some control over packed schedule. Notice that SY found time to meet SW's wife.
2. Did HW have more time than SY? Apparently so. He had time enough for the claw machine, engaging in social media, and excessive socialising with his friends. Also, he was probably higher up the organisational pecking order to cancel meetings or delegate more.
3. So what were SY's mitigating factors for her affair? HW failed to notice and meet her needs. He took her for granted, did not appreciate her as much, failed to be attentive to recognise her unspoken needs.
SW, in contrast, was more acutely aware of her needs. He gave her license to do she wants, eat something, doing something, and even doing nothing at all (including having an affair with him)!
How could SY be so naive and dumb? He love he offered cost her her marriage, hurt her husband and son, made her guilty, lose self-esteem, and ashamed. It's baffling and inconceivable.
5. Looking on the brighter side of things, I think that the relationship can be salvaged for some of these reasons:
a. Both HW & SY do not really want a divorce even despite their declarations;
b. SY and SW have ceased their meetings and discontinued the affair;
c. SW wife is not planning to divorce him to free him for SY ;
d. SY recognises her wrongdoing and seems remorseful. But HW & SY have a lot more to do;
e. There is social support for reconciliation;
f. Last but not least, HW & SY still love and care for each other but will need to express it better.
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29 reellife
December 5, 2016 at 9:37 AM
SY comes across as highly stressed (referring to ability to cope rather than sheer volume of work).
She is tired and wearied out. Note that the sleep at her dad's home revived her. Unfortunately, she failed the distinguish this but instead thought that sleeping with HW would destress her.
In fact, her affair increased her stress exponentially. Alas, she confused sleeping with sleeping around. Lol!
SW is also dastardly to take advantage of SY's weakness. Notice, he wasn't around to help SY with the fallout. But he also gave his wife SY's contact and even asked for her removal from the project team.
If SW was such a good guy and loved SY, he would have helped, protected, and taken responsibility for SY. Instead, he chose to stay with his wife and family.
A lesson to be learned by all who are tempted to have an affair - few having an affair marry!
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