This Week, My Wife Will Have an Affair: Episode 6
by chocolatte
The consequences of an affair are far-reaching, especially if the offenders are married and have families of their own. Our protagonists are still in the process of wading through their new reality, but a path forward isn’t as clear when none of the questions they face are easy to answer. When does it make sense to fight for your marriage? When do you move on? And how do you make these decisions when it’s not just you involved?
EPISODE 6 RECAP
Soo-yeon packs her things, determined to move out of their apartment. Hyun-woo asks if she’s really going to go through with this, but before the conversation can continue, they hear the front door open — it’s Hyun-woo’s mom and Joon-soo.
Hyun-woo’s mom knows that Soo-yeon wants a separation. Determined not to let that happen, Hyun-woo’s mom is clear with the couple: They can fight if they want to, but they should do it while living together.
Soo-yeon starts to speak up, but Hyun-woo stops her. He tells his mom that he and Soo-yeon will fix their problems on their own and tries to usher his mother out. Mom agrees to leave, but not before reminding the couple that marriage isn’t easy to undo. She says it’s easy to talk about separation, but hard to reverse once it actually happens.
Those words don’t change Soo-yeon’s mind though, and she continues to pack. Hyun-woo bitterly asks if she’s giving up on her role as a mom now that she’s given up being a wife. Looking wounded by his words, Soo-yeon tells Hyun-woo that she’ll take Joon-soo with her.
Hyun-woo can’t accept that, so he stops her and tells her he’ll leave instead. He makes it clear that he’s not doing this for her — he just doesn’t want Joon-soo to suffer.
It’s dinner time at Ara and Yoon-ki’s, and Yoon-ki is busy stuffing his face. Ara gently suggests that he take his jacket off, but when he does, a single flower petal drifts from his jacket onto the table — a remnant from Yoon-ki’s dalliance with the flower arrangement instructor. Ara’s eagle eye spots a few more petals, but as soon as she gets up from the table, a panicked Yoon-ki ends up eating the petals, effectively destroying the evidence.
Hyun-woo heads to the office to spend the night. He’s written another post online to announce the separation, where he notes that his wife seemed more concerned about Sun-woo’s wife finding out about the affair than she was about her own husband.
He settles onto the couch only to be interrupted by a tapping on the shoulder: it’s Bo-young, there to reclaim her space. She sets Hyun-woo up in the conference room for the night, but unable to fall asleep, Hyun-woo checks the responses to his post. None of his commenters are particularly supportive of his decision to leave home.
The next morning, Bo-young continues to help Hyun-woo get adjusted to his new environment, providing tips on how to freshen up using wet wipes and blotting powder. Haha, she’s so awesome.
When Joon-young arrives at work, he and Hyun-woo discuss the separation. Hyun-woo says he plans to spend his nights at the office or wherever else he can find, and Joon-young starts to invite Hyun-woo over to his place only to stop himself, looking guilty. Hyun-woo tells him not to worry — he’d feel too sorry towards Joon-young’s wife if he imposed.
Ara shows Yoon-ki a photo of a good-looking man and asks him what he thinks — she wants to set him up with the flower arrangement teacher. Ara looks straight into Yoon-ki’s eyes and says, “I hear she’s the type that men like.” Yoon-ki stares back at Ara, then loudly disagrees with her assessment.
Of course, back at the office, Yoon-ki exchanges kissy faces and sexy texts with said teacher. He jumps when his secretary enters with a message from Ara, but after she leaves the room, he says to himself with glee that it’s so much more thrilling now that he has a mole in the office.
While Hyun-woo catches up on responses to his post, we check in with TOYCRANE fans Ajumma and Grandma. They make themselves at home in the post office with face masks and food as they get ready to check out the latest posts. But they get kicked out just as fast, and they fret about how they’ll be able to read the next installment of Hyun-woo’s story.
Hyun-woo’s team makes last minute edits to their show before airing. Afterward, Hyun-woo, Bo-young, and Joon-young meet with the CEO, who praises their work on the pilot. While Bo-young and Joon-young involve the CEO in their usual bickering, Hyun-woo answers a call from Sun-woo’s wife.
Yoon-ki’s on the phone too, making lunch plans with his saleswoman girlfriend. But first things first: He meets with an attractive new client who thinks her husband’s cheating on her. Yoon-ki instantly turns on the charm, sidling up next to the woman and adding her as a friend on Facebook.
Walking out after coffee, Bo-young asks Joon-young if Hyun-woo’s situation has changed recently. Joon-young tells her that Hyun-woo left home, having separated from his wife. Bo-young says that if Joon-young was in Hyun-woo’s situation, he would have kicked his wife out and made a scene. Joon-young thinks that’s unfair and brings up the dinner they had together a while back, saying he joined her because he felt bad for her. Bo-young just retorts that he should feel worse for his wife.
Oh, speak of the devil — Bo-young notices Joon-young’s wife walking by and points her out. Joon-young doesn’t even seem to recognize her at first, then comments that his wife’s grown her hair out, sparking an odd look from Bo-young.
Hyun-woo sits down with Sun-woo’s wife, who’s eerily calm as she thanks him for telling her about the affair. She says that the affair turned out to be an opportunity to examine her relationship with Sun-woo, and for her to ask herself why he cheated. Hyun-woo’s incredulous that she’s not angry, telling her, “It’s not important why he cheated. What’s important is that he did cheat.”
She says she was angry, even after Sun-woo sincerely apologized to her. But her anger helped her realize that she didn’t really want a divorce. She says she’s trying to muster up the courage to forgive and understand him instead of the courage to divorce him.
Hyun-woo stammers that he and Soo-yeon aren’t thinking about divorce so quickly either. But after Sun-woo’s wife leaves, he takes his wedding ring off and slams it onto the table before shoving it back into his pocket.
Soo-yeon treats some fellow moms to a fancy lunch. Anxious for the other moms’ approval, she ends up agreeing to ask Hyun-woo about securing a videographer for an upcoming school event, even though she looks uncomfortable about it. Her troubles seem to be extending to work too, with no relief in sight.
Back at his office, Hyun-woo mulls over his conversation with Sun-woo’s wife and chucks his pen across the room in frustration, almost hitting an unexpected visitor: Ara. She’s stopped by to drop off lunch for the crew; she says she brought lunch for Yoon-ki too, but he isn’t in his office.
That’s because Yoon-ki’s at a hotel with his saleswoman girlfriend. As she chatters on about her day, Yoon-ki focuses on hitting up his newest target — the jilted wife who visited his office earlier — on his phone.
Joon-young, Bo-young, and Hyun-woo are out drinking when Bo-young gets a call from one of the husbands from their show, who keeps calling her to complain about his wife’s affair. Joon-young sympathizes with the husband (because men have an instinct to breed, he explains), but Bo-young rolls her eyes and asks what’s wrong with men.
When Joon-young asks Bo-young why she got married, she answers, “Because I was bad at math.” She says she wasn’t able to calculate whether or not she’d live well with her ex; she was bad at foreign languages too, since she couldn’t understand a word her ex said to her. Hyun-woo tells her that not all marriages are like that, but Bo-young doesn’t have any plans to get married again.
Though Bo-young’s drunk by the end of the night, she refuses a ride home from Joon-young. Instead, she stumbles over to a patch of grass and lies down. When the two men try to get her up, she rolls over and flashes her ring finger at Hyun-woo, asking him why he took off his wedding ring.
She asks Hyun-woo if he knows why the wedding ring is worn on the ring finger, but instead of answering, she collapses in a fit of giggles before passing out. Joon-young screams at her to get up, and after a moment, she does. Calling herself crazy, she takes off her socks and chucks them towards Joon-young before lying back down. Hahaha.
Hyun-woo, meanwhile, runs his fingers across the empty spot where his wedding ring used to be.
Joon-young carries Bo-young home and struggles to put her down on her bed, eventually collapsing into bed with her. He comes face to face with Bo-young’s sleeping face and freezes — his heart starts pounding, and you can practically see the hearts shooting out of his eyes. He gets himself together, but before he leaves, he takes off her shoes and covers her with a blanket.
Hyun-woo is about to check into a motel when Soo-yeon calls. Sadly, the first thing Soo-yeon asks about is the videographer for Joon-soo’s school event. Disappointed that she didn’t ask after him, Hyun-woo cuts the conversation short.
For some reason, the motel clerk is reluctant to give a room to a solo Hyun-woo, and even checks up on him multiple times. It turns out someone had committed suicide in the room not too long ago, and much to Hyun-woo’s horror, the clerk is worried about Hyun-woo’s state. That creeps Hyun-woo out, and in the end, he grabs his stuff and leaves.
Soo-yeon returns home and finds her mother-in-law in the kitchen and Joon-soo already asleep. When her mother-in-law asks after Hyun-woo, Soo-yeon honestly answers that Hyun-woo left the house. Mom isn’t pleased with this and starts to criticize Hyun-woo. Soo-yeon then decides to admit the truth: “It’s not him,” she says. “It’s me. I cheated. I’m sorry.”
Joon-young meets Hyun-woo at the playground where Hyun-woo plans to spend the night. This pricks at Joon-young’s conscience, so he finally invites Hyun-woo spend the night at his place, saying that his wife isn’t home.
Hyun-woo gushes at how nice Joon-young’s house is, oblivious to the dark expression on Joon-young’s face. It’s only after Joon-young leaves to get beer that Hyun-woo starts to notice things about the apartment — the lone toothbrush in the bathroom, the empty refrigerator, the general absence of a female presence in the house.
Hyun-woo’s looking into Joon-young’s bedroom when Joon-young creeps up behind him, looking like some kind of a serial killer. (A Signal reference, maybe?) Before Hyun-woo follows Joon-young out, he makes note of a suitcase tucked away in the corner.
Now Hyun-woo’s fully suspicious of Joon-young, and we get some scary background music to match Hyun-woo’s mood. He returns to Joon-young’s room to try to open the suitcase, but before he gets too far, Joon-young grabs his shoulder. Hyun-woo yelps when he sees a small knife in Joon-young’s hand and recoils in fear.
Hyun-woo’s overactive imagination is put to rest as he gets the real story from Joon-young (who’s using the knife to cut apples). It turns out that Joon-young’s wife really did leave three days after their honeymoon, and he’s lived in this apartment alone for the last three years pretending to be married.
Joon-young says he was too embarrassed to tell the truth, and then he missed his chance to come clean. He also says that he hasn’t been able to date other women because he’s scared of something embarrassing happening again.
Meanwhile, Hyun-woo’s mom and Soo-yeon are having a similar heart-to-heart conversation. Hyun-woo’s mom asks Soo-yeon about the possibility of divorce, but Soo-yeon responds that she and Hyun-woo haven’t really had a proper conversation yet.
Hyun-woo’s mom says that wives can have affairs too — after all, they’re human — but she says that mothers don’t have that same luxury. Soo-yeon quietly tells her mother-in-law that even if she gets divorced, she’ll make the best decision for Joon-soo.
Her mother-in-law assures her that she knows what a good mother Soo-yeon is. She recalls how Soo-yeon used to rush home from work when Joon-soo was breastfeeding, sweaty and with bruised toes. “If your mother had seen that, she would have cried,” she says. At this, Soo-yeon breaks down in tears.
When Joon-soo stumbles into the kitchen asking for his dad, it’s Grandma who comforts him by giving him a big hug and telling him that his dad will be home soon.
Many cans of beer later, Hyun-woo and Joon-young argue about who’s got it worse between the two of them. Hyun-woo was stabbed in the back and made a fool of himself online and Joon-young’s gone through some ridiculous lengths pretending to be married, including buying himself an anniversary cake and present every year. Joon-young wails that he’s afraid to date again and both he and Hyun-woo dissolve into tears, throwing their arms around each other in solidarity.
The next day, Bo-young grabs Joon-young as soon as she gets into work and drags him to the conference room. She shoves a plastic bag holding his socks in his face, asking him why he’d take his socks off at her house and leave them there.
Joon-young explains that he brought a drunk Bo-young home safely, then got his socks dirty while taking out her trash. Bo-young’s annoyed that he’d do such a thing in the first place, so Joon-young angrily tells her that he’ll stop caring about her.
Hyun-woo returns a call from Soo-yeon and is surprised to hear his son on the other end, asking him when he’s coming home. Joon-soo passes the phone over to Soo-yeon, who asks Hyun-woo about the videographer again. But then she asks him to come home, admitting that she was hasty in asking for a separation. True to form, Hyun-woo gets huffy and tells her that he’ll come home when he’s ready to come home.
He returns to his desk where he comes across his wedding ring, tucked away in his desk drawer. He slams the drawer shut in anger.
Yoon-ki waits around for his latest client (and potential mistress) to show up for another appointment. He turns down an invitation from the young PD, LEE JI-HOON, to join their team for a premiere watch party; he also takes note of his secretary swooning over the handsome PD.
When his client ends up pushing their meeting to the evening, Yoon-ki asks his secretary to go watch the premiere of the show with the team in his stead, strategically mentioning Lee PD’s name. She needs no further convincing and bolt, freeing up Yoon-ki to visit his flower teacher for a quick rendezvous.
Yoon-ki exchanges texts with Ara while he’s with the teacher, telling her he’s busy with work. But Ara’s actually in his office, and she visibly deflates when she reads his text.
Our Ajumma fan reads the latest TOYCRANE post on a tiny screen — it looks like she got herself a cell phone. Grandma wonders where she got the money and subsequently freaks out when she looks in the mirror and realizes that her gold tooth is gone. Ha.
At work, Soo-yeon finds herself in a text chain with other moms who are planning an outing after school. She gets guilt-tripped into promising them the videographer in exchange for the moms taking Joon-soo with them, and sighs with frustration.
Soo-yeon then picks up a call from an unknown number. Her eyes widen when the woman on the line introduces herself as Sun-woo’s wife.
Hyun-woo’s team (plus Yoon-ki’s secretary) gather in the conference room to watch the premiere of their show. Hyun-woo distractedly rubs his ring finger, which is still sans his wedding ring.
Sun-woo’s wife wears a defiant look in her eyes when she meets Soo-yeon, completely different than her demeanor with Hyun-woo. She tells Soo-yeon that she was curious to see what kind of woman she was, and asks if Soo-yeon expected Sun-woo to throw away his family for her.
Soo-yeon can’t say much as Sun-woo’s wife tears into her, calling her a cliché. She tells Soo-yeon her affair could never turn into romance, since she’s hurt their entire family. “I hope you always remember the wrong you did,” she says. “I hope you remember us for the rest of your life, and that you’re pained by it.”
Before she leaves, she says her husband was right: “You weren’t worth meeting. You’re a nobody.” Damn.
Back at Hyun-woo’s office, the team’s happy about the initial positive feedback to their pilot. Hyun-woo’s still distracted, and asks Lee PD about a videographer’s availability.
Soo-yeon’s lost in thought at work when she’s interrupted by a colleague asking about a project due that day. Soo-yeon seems to have completely missed the change to the deadline; she apologizes and promises to get the job done.
As she’s working, Soo-yeon receives a text reminding her to pick up Joon-soo by 6:00 p.m. Faced with no other option, Soo-yeon calls Hyun-woo for help. He’s unsympathetic to her plight, telling her that he’ll be busy taking his team out to dinner in celebration of their premiere. They hang up, but Hyun-woo looks conflicted.
Ara scrolls through the flower teacher’s social media feed and pauses at an update that she finds suspicious. She texts Yoon-ki to ask about his dinner plans, and he writes back that he’s still working but will be home for dinner.
Yoon-ki technically is still in the office, as he’s meeting with the client whose husband is cheating on her. But work’s not really what’s on his mind, and he makes his move on the woman. Surprisingly, she’s down for it — why shouldn’t she be, she asks, when her husband is seeing someone else?
Hyun-woo does end up going to get Joon-soo after all, but he’s unhappy to find Joon-soo sitting by himself. After a few minutes, Soo-yeon rushes in, then immediately starts sucking up to the other moms, which Hyun-woo notes with disapproval. One of the moms brings up the videographer again, and surprisingly, Hyun-woo speaks up to say he’s put in a request.
Outside, Hyun-woo berates Soo-yeon for agreeing to the videographer request and for pandering to the moms. He says she needs to pay more attention to Joon-soo — Hyun-woo says he’s being excluded by other kids, and blames Soo-yeon for not being a better mom.
He tells her that she uses Joon-soo as an excuse, when all she wants to do is show off to the world that she’s a super mom that’s better than the stay-at-home moms. Soo-yeon looks shell-shocked at Hyun-woo’s words, but she quietly tells him to think what he wants. In response, he tells Soo-yeon to act boldly around those other moms instead of acting like their maid.
At a noraebang with the rest of their team, Joon-young warns Bo-young not to drink too much, because he’s not carrying her home again. Bo-young says his wife would be upset to know that he carried her home in the first place, and Joon-young retorts that it won’t happen again.
By the time Hyun-woo arrives, everyone’s gone except for Bo-young (and Joon-young, who’s throwing up in the bathroom). Bo-young mentions Hyun-woo’s missing wedding ring, then surprises him by asking if his wife is having an affair. She then asks Hyun-woo if there was any meaning in taking off his ring.
Hyun-woo thinks back to earlier that night when he dropped Soo-yeon and Joon-soo off at home. As he watched Soo-yeon struggling to carry Joon-soo in on her back, he’d received a comment from TUNAMAYO asking if he still hasn’t had a proper conversation with his wife. TUNAMAYO encourages him to remember the vows he took when he slipped the wedding ring on Soo-yeon’s finger. Noting that the ring is worn on the weakest finger, she wrote, “Maybe it means we should live supporting each other’s weaknesses.”
Back in the present, Hyun-woo leaves Bo-young with a credit card and heads back into the office. He opens his desk drawer and looks at his ring.
Hyun-woo tells the world via another online post that tonight, he’s going to try again to talk to his wife and ask her why she did what she did. As Hyun-woo hails a taxi to head home, we see that he’s put his ring back on. But at home, Soo-yeon sits alone in the living room and takes her ring off, setting it atop divorce papers.
“This week,” Hyun-woo says in voiceover, “my wife is divorcing me.”
COMMENTS
I know it’s a symptom of their troubled relationship, but man, Hyun-woo and Soo-yeon are SO out of sync with one another. While Hyun-woo’s too angry to be able to sit down with Soo-yeon for a levelheaded conversation, Soo-yeon’s overwhelmed and chooses to retreat and run away rather than spend time dealing with her marriage (or what’s left of it). When Soo-yeon wants to talk, Hyun-woo blows her off. And when Hyun-woo decides he’s ready for another conversation, Soo-yeon’s ready to throw in the towel. As painful as it is to watch, you can’t deny that it’s realistic, and I have to applaud the show for depicting the slow downward spiral of a marriage in such a compelling and heartbreaking way.
I have to admit I felt sorry for Soo-yeon as she went through what was probably one of the worst days of her life. It’s true that Soo-yeon doesn’t really have a leg to stand on when it comes to the fallout after her affair — Hyun-woo has a right to be as angry as he is, as does Sun-woo’s wife. But as a working mom myself, I truly felt for Soo-yeon in those scenes where she’s scrambling to make sure Joon-soo’s taken care of while falling down on her responsibilities at work.
It’s just really sad to see how alone she is, and how much lonelier she’ll be if she decides to go through with this divorce. I don’t see any of her issues improving once she really separates from Hyun-woo; if anything, I see it getting worse. So from that perspective, I’d probably be an advocate for her to at least try saving her marriage with Hyun-woo, but only if she has any feelings left for him. I’m not in agreement with Hyun-woo’s mother that a mother has to be bound to a loveless marriage just for the sake of her children, because sometimes, it’s better to get divorced rather than force one’s children to live in a toxic household. The question for Soo-yeon now becomes whether or not her relationship is worth fighting for, and I hope that as the show continues, we keep learning more about Soo-yeon’s motivations and what their marriage really looked like before her affair began.
Bo-young’s character is quickly turning out to be one of my favorites — I just love her no-nonsense attitude towards her work and her relationships, and the fact that she could really care less about what others think of her or her lifestyle. She’s shown us from day one that she’s thoughtful and introspective when it comes to the topic of marriage, and she’s probably done more to help Hyun-woo get through his issues than anyone else in his circle of supporters (maybe with the exception of TUNAMAYO). Also, she makes a hilarious drunk.
That being said, I’m looking forward to the inevitable romance between her and Joon-young, now that we’ve confirmed that he’s not another sketchy married man. Our king of overreactions was so subdued when he told Hyun-woo the truth about his faux marriage — it’s as if he’s bottled up all of his emotions regarding his life and only lets them out when it comes to other people’s problems. While I found it ridiculous (and not believable, frankly) that he pulled off the charade of being a married man for three whole years, I totally buy that he’s been unable to date because he’s so paralyzed by the fear of something similar happening to him again.
Despite all his talk about male “instincts,” Joon-young seems like the kind of guy who can nurse a crush for years on end, and judging by the way he looked at Bo-young when he took her home, he’s probably already there with her. Now, we’ll wait for Bo-young to realize that her unending annoyance with Joon-young is actually a deep-seated attraction to him. I’m all for including an adultery-free love story in this stormy tale of affairs and marriages on the rocks, so bring it on!
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1 karin
November 16, 2016 at 3:41 AM
Thanks for the recap!
I think Bo-Young annoyance to Joon Young is not because she doesnt realize that she is attracted to Joon Young more like it is her wall of defence, because she thought that Joon Young is still with his wife and in a marriage, thus she doesnt want him or herself to have any romantic feelings towards each other, making her the third person in Joon Young marriage. Especially when she already experienced how hard it is to be cheated by your partner.
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Nina Chikovani
November 16, 2016 at 4:09 AM
Yap, I totally agree, she is always the first one to remind Joon Young that he has a wife
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Chandler
November 16, 2016 at 4:43 PM
Yeah, ever since I first noticed her reminding him of his wife, I suspected that she was probably pretty aware of the mutual attraction between them (I'd say more than him, tbh). The fact that she had such a hard time accepting his friend request is already indication enough of her awareness actually. She's been trying to set boundaries for a while now and I'm definitely curious to see how the news about his wife is gonna affect her.
I kinda want a flashback to that cherry blossom scene they keep referring to! Haha, I adore this couple. I've said it before, but I could watch a whole drama with them as the leads. We only have 6 more episodes so hopefully we'll get some developments soon.
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mary
November 16, 2016 at 12:58 PM
That's what I think too! :)
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a
November 16, 2016 at 2:29 PM
One sec, so this guy stays married even after the post honey moon fiasco? He's not got a divorce? And she walked off out of his life without even sending or initiating a divorce. Totally weird. And unreal.
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mary
November 16, 2016 at 2:40 PM
We don't know that yet.
But we're just guessing that from Bo-young's point of view, Joon-young is married, albeit aloof from his wife. She keeps driving him away because she gets weird vibes from him and she doesn't want to be the third party.
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a
November 16, 2016 at 3:09 PM
Oops. I meant from Hung woo n Jung woong's table at his place when he confessed his wife had indeed left him n he still is married. Ok, even if he is too 'embarassed' meeting confronting her, she , what is she doing, nothing is told. Exactly that the status is still married. I found this very strange n whether really this is plausible.
Dramaqueen
November 16, 2016 at 3:16 PM
It looks confusing but the simple answer is probably that they hadn't formally registered their marriage. I have watched other dramas where the couple live as man and wife but not send in their registration papers.
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a
November 16, 2016 at 3:32 PM
So that means technically they are not married? So what's with his drama then if he is legally still single. Is that he's still embarrassed about his exp n thus maintains a married status?. For three years?? He definitely needs help!!
2 Katherine
November 16, 2016 at 4:08 AM
I hadn't realized how isolated Sooyeon was until this episode, she doesn't seem to have any friends (no clue about her father but I assume her mother has passed on) and compared to Hyunwoo's working environment, hers is more stringent due to it being the corporate world. Having a career and juggling being a mother/wife at the same time ain't easy and it's clear as day she's worn out now.
Hyunwoo and Sooyeon are both so frustrating to watch, like you said chocolatte they're both so out of sync and it's hard seeing a relationship fall apart (props to this show, they ain't shying away from it at all). We still haven't gotten enough of Sooyeon's side of the story, she really does hold the keys to the bigger picture. Every time they do talk it's depressing, the last conversation they had was P A I N F U L ! Hyunwoo questioning Sooyeon's motives as a mother and asking what has she done for Joon-soo, like seriously ?.
Two plot twists of the show so far : Joonyoung technically DOES have a wife lol & the other being the understanding Mother-in-Law, when it started out I was side-eying her but she came through in this episode and it warmed my heart seeing her reassure Sooyeon that she is a good mother despite everything she knows how much she cares and loves Joon-soo.
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Less Yoonki please, unless Ah Ra is finally dumping his ass if not then enough already.
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Akash
November 16, 2016 at 5:38 AM
Hyunwoo's reaction shows why Sooyeon had an affair, he doesn't seem to care what she does in the background for the family. If he keeps being condescending to her it will look like they won't have any future together. Also, I hated that wife's reaction to her, she acted like a Mother Teresa to Hyunwoo and here she was totally opposite.
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Elle
November 16, 2016 at 6:56 AM
How should the wife have reacted to Soo-yeon, though? The wife probably saw Hyun-woo as a fellow betrayed soul and felt they were on the same boat. I don't see why she should act the same for her husband's mistress.
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Islander north
November 16, 2016 at 10:05 AM
Soo-yeon seems rather passive-aggressive; she tries to be super woman but of course fails. She doesn't turn to her husband, but to another man. So what if her husband is rather untuned to their relationship; how is he to know if she is so martyr like? What did she expect to happen from the affair? She seems like a self-sacrificing coward.
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gem28
November 16, 2016 at 7:29 AM
She could dump his ass and begin fresh, I don't see why she had to have a 6 month long affair with a married man when she has basically given up on her marriage. She doesn't want to fight to save her marriage, she had one foot out the door in their confrontation, so why make this mess to begin with?? Hyunwoo may not be perfect but Soo Yeon is sort of overly image concerned. I hope they explain this part about her.
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BC
November 16, 2016 at 12:25 PM
She didn't give up in the beginning - her words like " I didn't want this to turn up this way " - said everything, but the reaction of HW and all the blaming is pushing her towards the final end of their relationship. As for divorce there are always both of them to blame. HW didn't look back at himself why she was looking for comfort in another man's arms.
I'm so similar to SY - like a bomb ready to explode, but before I was even worse = never complained, all the time easygoing, just when I got angry, I didn't talk for two days. Until I got really sick and the doctors couldn't find out why I had high fever and an awful chest pain. My sisters friend is a shaman (I know it might sound ridiculouse especially with the drama Lucky Romance, but she can see everything about you) and she told me that until I won't talk when I disagree I'll keep the pain. From that time I try to be franc and talk, sometimes it's impossible because the other side doesn't listen to my arguments. People still think I don't stress, but I do, I get so itchy. And sometimes I find myself looking at my life partner when he is lecturing me and berating me, like HW did in this episode to SY, questioning myself why I'm living with this guy, he's not the man I fell in love with.
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Darlene
November 16, 2016 at 9:23 PM
I agree with you. I'm not excusing Sooyeon's affair but I do see why it started. However, it could have been avoided if she told Hyunwoo about her troubles and worries or even divorced him before finding happiness in herself or another guy. (albeit she still ruined another family)
But as we know, this show does not depict black-and-white relationships. So, she might have been insecure and wary of her husband. As we've seen, Hyunwoo isn't the best when it comes to listening to other people and having an unconditional positive regard. He's quite self indignant and only hears and sees what benefits him. But talking to him before the affair could have salvaged their marriage.
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3 Amie
November 16, 2016 at 4:14 AM
So I guess the question now is - is the marriage worth saving? Who will stand by you Soo Yeon when the very person you risked evrything for just threw you out? And adding insult to injury you have to face the confrontation with his wife and there's nothing you could do or say to defend your actions. But the guy is back to his life like nothing happened. Tchk.
More than anything... I`m rooting for Joon Young and Bo Young. And this show is seriously grossing me out with chronic cheater Yoon ki, eeewwww. Pretty ahjumma should divorce him asap or have an affair with a younger, handsome guy or somebody with a better specs than her husband. She knows he is cheating but can't seem to catch him. Why not hire a detective? I want him in shreds by the end of this show. She can go Lorena Bobbit on him. I hate him, he is so disgusting! I want to pull all his hair out and shave his eyebrows.
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akash
November 16, 2016 at 5:40 AM
Pretty ahjumma should leave instead of staying and snooping over his activities, she has enough evidence already.
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4 Bluepanda
November 16, 2016 at 4:22 AM
Funny thing about the hotel scene..I was wondering why checking in alone is like a bad thing til it was revealed that somebody commited suicide.
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MapleSilver
November 17, 2016 at 7:46 AM
I just love that six episodes in I am still able to laugh at cleverly inserted funny scenes like the hotel one and various others. I seriously LOL when Joon Yoong confessed about everything to Hyun Woo.
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5 Nina Chikovani
November 16, 2016 at 4:25 AM
To be honest, at first I really felt sorry for Soo Yeon but then I remembered. SHE CHEATED, and it wasn't one time thing, it lasted for six months. No matter how much I think about it I really can't understand or forgive it.
He was a bad husband? Didn't listen to your problems? Oh well, then divorce him if he is that bad and besides it's not like he changed after the wedding.
They have been dating for SIX years, it's more then enough to get to know the person(at least know that he isn't the best listener or hot header sometimes).
She is all sad and acting like a victim but imagine her ditching her family dinner and spending less time with her child to meet someone who ALSO has a spouse.
I don't get it, at the end of the episode I wondered why should I feel for her, she doesn't even TRY to save her marriage. Hyun Woo hasn't been the best husband and is having trouble with dealing with his problems, but really? Can't she give him a little time to process things?
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Owl
November 16, 2016 at 4:46 AM
She probably didn't want to get divorce. Maybe she loved him or didn't want to lose the child (child goes to father in Korea?), so she tired to bear it. But when someone came who loves her or pretend to love her she broke down.
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Nina Chikovani
November 16, 2016 at 6:51 AM
As far as I know mothers have more chances with getting child custody and if she didn't want to leave then it comes out strange how fast she decided to get divorce, espacially now, when her husband has proof of her affair/can use it in court
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KpopKitty
November 16, 2016 at 9:57 AM
Divorce is pretty harsh in Korea though especially to single mothers. Very looked down upon and there's really no support if you happen to be a female with a kid. It's also a hard decision in general. I'd like to believe Sooyeon loves him, but then I don't know what would be her exact reasoning for staying with him this long if his personality has always been this way, before they had a kid.
I don't agree with her cheating of course but I can start to understand why she might have done it. They do have a kid after all. However, I do agree with you in the fact that they've been dating for so long AND married for so long. It's very concerning that one person had this super perfect image of their marriage but the other didn't. However, this can also be attributed to their personalities - Sooyeon just backs down from conflict when approached with it, and would rather submit rather than defend herself. It's weird that Hyunwoo really doesn't realize how much she works either. It's like they're just married under name but then they get together for the important dates and -boom-
I feel bad for her in the respect that she really is stretching herself too thin and she has no main support to help ease her troubles, but it's hard for me to decide whether I really like or dislike her, because we have yet to see Sooyeon's perspectives of what their marriage life was like before all of this happened.
However, I like that she show accurately portrays the complexity of a marriage and then the intricacies of everyone involved when an affair takes place. It's not always that a character is 100% evil like that one wife we saw that had no remorse when she cheated, but it's hard to tell with Sooyeon because she really doesn't vocalize any of her opinions at all.
I can definitely understand Hyun Woo for lashing out and saying hurtful things, but I feel like the show has a lot more to reveal about Sooyeon and why things might have led her down this path. And of course, I'm emphasizing that I don't agree with her for cheating - but each person is different and each case is different when it comes to this. I'm not saying everyone should justify her cheating because she was wrong to participate in that - but that doesn't mean we can't at least try to understand her or perhaps realize that it's not as simple as black and white on who ruined the marriage because we can obviously see they're so out of sync with one another.
Sorry for the huge comment, I ended up kinda just rambling - but I really enjoy discussions and I think it'll be interesting to see how the show portrays this relationship in the last 10 eps.
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KpopKitty
November 16, 2016 at 10:01 AM
Also forgot to mention I agree with the point about their kid though - though she is busy, it does make you wonder how many times she skipped out to meet her love and how many of those skipping meetings was actually because she had work that she needed to do. So, although Hyunwoo's comment was hurtful, it's a reasonable comment to see and understand based on everything that has been revealed
Dina
November 17, 2016 at 6:03 AM
She has a stable job. I don't see why it would be a problem with shared custody.
MG
November 16, 2016 at 5:11 AM
Cheating is bad - nothing can justify the act BUT we also need to see how and why it happened. Not to justify what she did but atleast to understand some of the reasons why it made her cheat.
Seriously though, we can't always blame the person who cheated and given the fact that this will forever be in her past, we need to atleast know her story before anything else. But I have to agree that she should have given him enough time to process the events though I also understand her given how he acts towards her. I don't think this is a spur of the moment kind of decision from her.
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Islander north
November 16, 2016 at 10:12 AM
Every cheater I've met has some LA (Lame Ass) excuse. But in the end, it boils down to ME, ME, ME. I want, I didn't get, I need... and hubs and kids are just collateral damage.
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maymay
November 16, 2016 at 7:28 AM
Hi beanies, just sharing my opinion. I don't think is wrong to feel bad for the cheater. We might not condone their action but it doesn't mean that they weren't suffering in their own way. Would it make you feel better that the wife never cheats but suffers silently until she breaks down mentally? And have you considered how would you react if your best/close girlfriend did the same thing? As always we are always rational when we are just observers but who is to know what we or our close friends do when placed in the same predicament. If you were in her shoes, would you not crave for a sympathetic ear. If it were your friend, would you not at least hear her out. It's not like she is unrepentent (or like Yoon Ki), and it's not like she is scheming to hold on to that other man. Even if she ends up in divorce, I still think she needs a friend, a shoulder to cry on, and not just judgemental people like a lot of us.
And I disagree strongly on the fact that if you date someone for a long period of time, you should know someone inside out. People do change over time. Marriage changed the dinamics of your relationships. I am going to assume Nerdy is not married here (Sorry if I am wrong). There is a saying that marriage is the graveyard of love. Depending on the society you are in, I will say most Asian countries, the dynamics change drastically and will take some getting used to. If before when you were dating, the men pampers and agrees to your every requests, after getting married you are expected to fulfill their requests. Even in this age of supposed gender equality,women are expected to do more, to be subservient to the husband. Sometimes we do it out of love, other times it is something expected of us. Doesn't mean the man you married is bad, but if they lack consideration, it does make life harder.
Again, I do not support cheating but I think it is too harsh to suggest that we should not feel sorry for the character at all. Sorry for the long post.
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Nina Chikovani
November 16, 2016 at 8:39 AM
Marriage is hard, being a working mom is also hard, but you see, tons of working moms don't cheat. I wonder what makes Soo Yeons situation so special or different
"Would it make you feel better that the wife never cheats but suffers silently until she breaks down mentally?"
Again, why do we have only two options? Her husband is not some sort of tyrant, he tried to protect her from his mother, asked for a few times if she was angry when he forgot their child, washed the dishes because she might be tired. As you said, our main hero lacks considiration but at least he tries and when his wife acts like everything is fine then he trusts her words. He is not some mind reader but he is a lot better then a lot of husbands of faithul wives.
She also has a son, the one who loves her without any reason, he can't give her the shoulder to cry, but we definetly can say that she is not alone.
I am not even going to start talking about how for 35 years of life k-drama character couldn't find even one friend...but really, if she needed someone else (because for some reason her husband is unable) to understand her she could find a friend, not a lover. And lover with a wife on his own. Selfish no? Destroing someones else's marriage because you feel lonely.
As you said I am not married, I am not trying to hate or anything, I like this show so I wonder about why is it trying to make character sympathetic if she digged her own grave.
Sorry, for my bad english
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MapleSilver
November 16, 2016 at 8:58 AM
Your English is perfectly fine and you made good points.
So we know Hyun Woo connects to people very easily and she does not from the fact that he has so many friends and she is all alone. His personality is down to earth whereas she seems to be closed and reserved as evidenced in their wedding video when she does not want to openly show affection. I wonder if she ever feels insecure next to such extroverted partner who never lacks company and so her coping mechanism over the year is to overcompensate her insecurity by building this perfect image of a wife/mother. As an introvert myself I definitely often feel insecure around more extroverted people.
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maymay
November 16, 2016 at 9:39 AM
Soo Yeon is not special and she is not the only person who has cheated either but to make a character hateful just because she cheats is very one-dimensional. Just like we argue some murderers come from broken family (sorry probably a poor example), she could have her reasons too and it is definitely more interesting to let her story be stold as well. And like you say, tons of other neglected wives don't cheat too, but there are also a significant number who does and I like that this show tries to explore that angle.
Each of us has our own set of values and it is very easy to judge based on our values. You would think people in an abusive relationship should just run away and leave the partner but in a lot of situation, I feel like the personality of that person matters too. What we think is right sadly might not mean the same to others for whatever reasons (upbringing, family, society, etc). Probably because we have been seeing the story from the husband's point of view that makes it harder for some to spare even some sympathy for the wife (especially if one feels strongly on the subject). That is for the show to rectify if indeed it plans to do so anyway.
My argument, or my personal sentiments anyway, was that we can think that the wife is wrong to cheat but we could still feel a degree of sympathy for her anyway. At the very least, sorry that she did not do better to maintain her marriage that sort of thing. This is where I think you misunderstand me, I don't mean sympathetic as to justify her actions but just yunno be sorry for her.
Sorry my points are all over the place, I make a horrible debater. It's just that I had a friend who well was sort of cheating (she wasn't married at the time), and I distanced myself from her thinking that she's doing an awful thing. She didn't end up with that other guy (they both had partners) but I realized after we got closer again how alone she was when facing all the criticisms and side eyes. And then I wished I had been a better friend and be there for her when she was struggling.
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mary
November 16, 2016 at 1:25 PM
@maymay, I get your points and understand them very well.
Yes, it is wrong to cheat. But just because Soo-yeon cheated doesn't negate all the other things that she did, or suffering that she went through. And just because we acknowledge those sufferings doesn't mean we excuse her of cheating!
This is like Min Joon-gook in I Hear Your Voice. He was wronged, so he turned to murder. His being a murderer was inexcusable. Not everyone who is wronged turns to murder. But it also doesn't mean we cannot feel pity for the tragedy that hit his family. We can pity a sinner without necessarily giving them a free pass on their sins.
Another meta reason I want to know Soo-yeon's thoughts and feelings is because, as a viewer, I find her character has been held back from us. I want to know her story and I want Hyun-woo to know too. Because only then will I know as a viewer whether to root for them to fix their marriage or to find an amicable way to split up.
Islander north
November 16, 2016 at 10:14 AM
You said it so well!
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Islander north
November 16, 2016 at 10:16 AM
That comment was for NERDY.
thatstp
November 16, 2016 at 10:23 AM
By your logic of "a lot of other working moms don't cheat, what makes her so special" then we can say the same of him. Just because he's not as bad as other husbands with faithful wives doesn't make him guilt free in his marriage breaking down. He tries to make up for messing up but it still shows a lack of consideration for his wife. Because when he messes up she has to clean up behind him. "I'm sorry", is only going to smooth over the first few times. Otherwise he's just adding to her stress.
Having a kid does not mean you are not alone. Hell, having a spouse doesn't mean you're not alone. I don't know if you have kids or not but let me say this, being a mother is only a part of who you are. You are a different person with your kids. The son can be a source of joy for her but that can only help so much. Adults need other adults too.
Soo Yeon probably had friends before she got married. Any married working parent can tell you that you barely have time for others. Hyun Woo has time because his wife is picking up the slack. Like most marriages there is always someone who gives a little more than the other.
You say she should have found a friend. We don't know yet if Soo Yeon and Sun Woo didn't start off as friends then progressed to something more. She didn't destroy his home. You can't destroy another person's home or marriage. Only they can do that. Sun Woo knew what the consequence's were just as much as Soo Yeon. He could have said no.
Yes, she dug her own grave but Hyun Woo is not blameless. His expectations and her desire to be a perfect wife were the start of the cracks in their marriage.
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Nursejackie
November 16, 2016 at 10:43 AM
I'd argue that it's the other way around. Sooyeon had time for the affair because hyunwoo and his mother were picking up the slack. Hyunwoo's job is more flexible than hers and so he winds up with much of the care taking responsibilities. Taking their child to the bus stop, driving him places, feeding him and cleaning up the dishes, reading bedtime stories, etc. We see hyunwoo doing these things but rarely see sooyeon doing them and finishing them. More often than not she asks her husband to finish the task for her. When she leaves home she goes to hyunwoo's mother, who then takes over some of the care taking. It's so extreme that even the child is told not to stress his mother out too much, because her husband and mother in law are so considerate of the stress that her office environment must cause. And juxtaposed to that you have hyunwoo and their son requesting a family day together, only for sooyeon to decline in favor of meeting her affair partner.
thatstp
November 16, 2016 at 11:38 AM
If you tell a child not to stress his stress his mom out isn't it because you can see that something is stressing her out? As her husband shouldn't he try to get her to tell him what's wrong? I'm not saying she is right for cheating because she is not. She had a responsibility to communicate with her husband. People make time for the things that make them happy. She was trying to escape, she just went about it the wrong way. We'll know more as more is revealed.
Nursejackie
November 16, 2016 at 12:05 PM
It's rather pointless to try to fix your spouse's work related stress. I say that as the wife of a man with a very high stress job. There's nothing you can do to help practically speaking. Forcing them to talk about it at home can often make things worse because then the home ceases to be an escape. If a spouse who works a high stress job needs additional support, beyond help at home, then it is their responsibility to ask for it. Sooyeon's conflict avoidance does not mean that hyunwoo is obligated to read minds.
A well functioning adult does not simply make time for their cheap thrills. First they take care of their responsibilities. Then they weigh what makes them happy against the price of what makes them happy. Either sooyeon failed to make that calculation or she decided that her affair was more important than her marriage vows and her child's stability. Neither reflect well on her.
I fully expect the show to give us plenty of faults on hyunwoo's end. But the bottom line is that she failed to fulfill her responsibilities towards her son and her husband. Even if hyunwoo had neglected her or cheated first, that does not negate her responsibilities towards her son. Addressing the problems in the relationship and deciding where to go from there teaches her son healthy relationship dynamics. Engaging in an affair, playing the martyr, and then running away teaches him unhealthy relationships dynamics. She's not a monster, but it is past time that she face her own failings
tunamayo2
November 18, 2016 at 4:20 PM
@maymay and @thatstp-thank you for such well thought out, mature commentary and it's a pleasure to read them. @Nerdy, you see things as very black and white and it's very telling from your comments that you aren't married. Perhaps when you happen to meet someone else that shares a deep connection with you at the lowest point of your marriage, you will look back at the person you are now and realise how one dimensional you have been. Like what @maymay said, Marriage changes everything. Especially in Asian societies where couples live together after marriage. And @thatstp, you are absolutely right " adults need adults too".
Before I start off, I have to say that this does not include Serial cheaters like Yoonki. Everyone has different sets of values. Some look at an affair and go full blame mode, you broke the vow, you broke whatever promise you made before we got married. But hey, an affair is often a symptom of a problem and its rarely just 1 persons fault. And what about other promises? To love her and take care of her and be a lifelong partner till death do you part? Hyunwoo, as we've seen from this great drama, sees his wife as someone who simply ticks the checklist of a good wife. Does laundry, check. Pick up kids, check. Pretty and capable in career, check. How about Soo Yeons emotional needs that are so obviously neglected from her husband? He's out with colleagues most nights, we rarely see the 2 of them spending a day out, even with their son. He blames her when he sees his son playing alone. She tried for years to be a great mother so that you can have your career, while she has her own to handle. Michael, the affair partner, as it was shown, is also an excellent father. Perhaps they found comfort in each other being colleagues whom you spend more time with than your spouse, and it grew with time. Perhaps the glimpses of romance alleviated the daily and prolonged crap they face from their own spouses. Not such raunchy meaningless affair like Yoonki. Humans play different roles, we can be great parents, great daughters and sons, great friends and great romantic partners. To question how she can be a great Mom yet have an affair is childish and ridiculous. Loving your kids is a different love from loving a man or woman romantically.
The pressing question is now, how and where do they go from here? Will Hyunwoo become a husband that fulfils her emotional needs and spend more time talking to her and loving her such that her heart is so full it is incapable of letting another in? (For women to cheat, it's rarely just physical. ) or will he continue his blaming ways and drive her further away? Obviously she still loves him and is filled with remorse ( being indifferent is indicative of a woman/man who doesn't ) and as long as he reminds her of their love, she will rebuild their marriage together. Many people find their happiness after a divorce too, but I'm rooting for this couple to keep trying! Excited to see the rest of this...
Shalala
November 21, 2016 at 2:33 PM
@tunamayo2
After reading your comment, it shows that you're quite bias in your thinking. Your argument is very one dimensional. It's funny that you'd feel sympathetic towards Soo Yeon, but not towards Yoo Lo? Why is that? To cheat repetitively is a sign that's something is wrong, either with him or his marriage. There are degrees of cheating, sure. People have different values, sure. But you can't state "an affair is often a symptom of a problem and [it's] rarely just 1 person fault" and then "go full blame" on Yoonki but not Soo Yeon. What are you implying? Yoonki may be sneaky with his affairs, but don't forget, so was Soo Yeon. She carried the affair on for six months.
I'm not sure what you meant when you said "[e]specially in Asian societies where couples live together after marriage." Isn't that across all cultures? Soo Yeon may have found comfort in being together with her ex-lover, and it could have started from a friendly place. But she took that friendship further by engaging in an affair with the man.
I do feel sympathetic towards Soo Yeon. She's a hard working woman who is struggling to juggle her home, work and personal life. But to say that it's because her husband didn't satisfy or fulfill her with empathy and listen to her silence pushed her to have an affair is a bit ridiculous. Your last paragraph screams sexism. He may not be the perfect husband but neither is she the perfect wife. Yet, you put so much emphasis on how he could become a perfect husband but state nothing for her.
It's obviously not obvious that she's still in love with her husband. The only indicator that we received from Soo Yeon is that she wanted to salvage her marriage was when she told her husband a few episodes back that she didn't want a divorce. She's yet to explain why she had an affair. She's yet to tell Hyun Woo her honest feelings about him. She's yet to even show that she willing to fight to be in this relationship.
If being indifferent is an indicator that you want to be in a relationship then good luck to her on her next relationship. Because here's one thing that's universal, no matter what kind of relationship you get into, if you don't express or communicate; the relationship will fail.
No, the pressing questions shouldn't only be about how Hyun Woo is going to save his marriage, but what are they both going to do. You can't put forth that Hyun Woo should fill her heart with so much love that she's incapable of cheating again (a bit silly to me), but not state that Soo Yeon should also put in the effort to gain her husband's trust again.
Dundundun
November 21, 2016 at 7:14 PM
@thatsp – She did break her ex-lover’s marriage. She may not be the only factor, but was she was a factor. Breaking news: Soo Yeon was the mistress. She knew as well as her ex-lover what they were doing. She played a part in that affair.
If you're the driver of a get away car after a robbery, you're an accessory. You may not have been present during the robbery, but you knew the plan and didn't prevent it from happening. She was an accessory. She wasn't an innocent bystander.
So, yeah, she is a homewrecker. So is her ex-lover. Call it how it is, don't pick and choose just because she's someone we can sympathize with.
a
November 16, 2016 at 3:18 PM
the wife would have continued the affair If not for hung woo finding out n then we getting our story. She isn't innocent and is very aware of her situation n her lacking. She covers it by trying to be toopolite n bending, with the other parents, her m I L, her colleagues or she slam s shut when she has to truly be herself n communicate, like with her husband.
I don't understand her character, if she is like this or some nuances are needed n it's the actress's lacking. She is some one I really don't know what to make of.
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Dina
November 17, 2016 at 11:34 AM
I agree. If her husband didn't find out, she would continue the affair. She is not innocent at all and I have very little sympathy for her. She stomped all over her marriage vows. She wants to garner sympathy.
What did rub me the wrong way is when the husband said he couldn't go pick up their son, saying its her job,. Like what, it's your son too so put in the work!
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6 Mikimouse12
November 16, 2016 at 4:49 AM
Yoon Ki's smug face makes me want to grab his collar and shake him so bad. I'm sooooooo frustrated with Yoon Ki and even more so with his mistresses. Like seriously?!?!? the flower teacher knows that he has a wife. The wife is even her student. huhu.
Anyway, thanks for the recap!
P.S. love reading the comment section. Hello people!
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Islander north
November 16, 2016 at 10:18 AM
Seriously? Well, Yook Ki's character isn't really a serious character...he's there to show us adultery unbridled. He is so extreme and outrageous, that he's actually funny...you can see he is rapidly digging his own grave. So glad they don't have children.
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Mikimouse12
November 16, 2016 at 6:40 PM
I know he's there for comedic relief. But because he's being portrayed that way, it looks like its okay for guys to cheat. I don't find him funny (maybe because of my experience lol) well i hope he gets what he deserves. hahah i agree with you! so glad they don't have children.
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mary
November 16, 2016 at 1:33 PM
@mikimouse12, it annoys me that his marriage isn't being explored too. I think Ara knows deep down that he's cheating (why else will she go through all those strict checks?) She's just deluding herself into thinking he's not and I think it's breaking her.
I wish the show would hurry up and give this pair some progress because I'm getting sick of watching him hurt his wife this way.
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Mikimouse12
November 16, 2016 at 6:46 PM
I KNOWWWWW. I just feel bad for her. I can totally relate. She knows he's cheating but she doesn't have solid evidence. So she can't do anything about it but wait for him to slip up or something. But as we can see, he's so used to it that he has even M.O lolzzz ugh really can't wait for Ahra's turn.
I just want to add... when he dreamt of Ahra cheating on him, he got mad. He kicked her out of the bed and texted his mistress. Um wtf?
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mary
November 17, 2016 at 11:56 AM
Yeah, his double standards are sickening. I have hope for HW and SY's marriage if they work on it, but for Yoon-ki and Ara, I think it's just better to separate. He only married her for her connections anyway.
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a
November 17, 2016 at 12:38 PM
The thing is she very well know s her husband is cheating. But she wants to either catch him in the act or find solid evidence to mail him. It's like a thrill for her n and she does this because she simply had nothing else s nothing else to do. She cooks , cooks for the whole team , for him. Waits on him n thinks of ways to get him snared. If she leaves him , I m not sure what will she do in life, because when I'd she does mail him, don't v think shell leave him rather shell give him hell living with him.
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Mikimouse12
November 18, 2016 at 4:51 AM
Trying to catch his husband cheating as a form of entertainment would be pathetic. I don't think anyone (even bored housewives) would want that as a way to pass time.
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a
November 18, 2016 at 1:56 PM
Isn't it. But i see her expressions her insinuations her games as well and all I see us her ways of entrapping him, how she feels so busy doing this. It's strange ,but she seems to thrive .
Else looking at the petals on her hubby she did put two n Theo together yet don't force him to remove his shirt or call up the flower lady n ask her n get done with it. On a way the more it prolongs the more she 'likes' it
7 bu
November 16, 2016 at 5:22 AM
I feel like Hyun Woo is a really shitty father.
He calls his wife a bad mother for sucking up to those other mothers, but what does he do?
I feel like he has decided to not take care of his son (in regard to taking him to school etc, not in regard to love) because his wife cheated.
It makes him very unsymphatetic.
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Lynn
November 16, 2016 at 6:38 AM
I think it would be hard to be sympathetic in his case. His wife cheated on him for 6 months, didn't even say sorry when she was caught, and wants to leave and take their son.
She has created her own hell and I don't get the expectations for Hyun Woo to be the bigger person.
He did end up going to pick up Joon Soo so it's not like he's heartless and derelict. She wanted to take the kid and bear responsibility for him. She will soon realize that she cannot handle it all alone.
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du
November 16, 2016 at 6:58 AM
Well yeah, but thats my point, the son didn't cheat, bis wife did. It's not like its only her son, they are both Parents. So at the moment, the son is getting hurt, because bis mother is in over her head and bis father is taking bis hurt heart out in him. To me, thats unfair
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Kwinchikochi
November 16, 2016 at 7:23 AM
Yea I agree she soon will realise that she can't handle it all alone ,I think we are getting there ,I mean her immediate reaction to getting caught initially was more like yes I did this ,I take responsibility sort ,even in this episode with her planning to leave the house ,like WOMAN talk it out with your spouse !
But again hyun woo isn't anymore reasonable in his own ways
Man the frustration looking at the two of them
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Nursejackie
November 16, 2016 at 7:29 AM
To be fair he has a really valid point. What has she done? She's blown up the family unit. She's spent time and energy that could have gone to her husband and child on another man. (That scene when she distractedly sends father and son off to the theme park while planning her day around banging her other man... Oof. That scene made me rage so hard that I woke my nursing baby.) She's increased the odds of her son either cheating or being cheated on. She put half of the household income at risk. She caused severe distress to the boy's father, which the boy picked up on pretty early on. She's separated father and child once and keeps threatening to do so again.
Even her efforts to get the kid into the art academy net negative for the kid. Sure he's in the academy now, but he has to watch his mother prostrate herself in front of his peers' mothers. He has had his time spent with his mother drastically cut while she runs around doing errands for them and trying to clean up the mess left by her affair. It would have been much better for them to simply hold off until the next enrollment period. The kid even flat out tells her that he understands that it'll be difficult for him to get in late. She really does need to stop and ask herself "Am I doing what is truly best for my child, or am I merely putting on a show for my neighbors?"
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du
November 16, 2016 at 8:09 AM
" She really does need to stop and ask herself “Am I doing what is truly best for my child, or am I merely putting on a show for my neighbors?”
That's a very interesting point! I didn't view it from that angle. I guess keeping up appearances is one of the themes of the show - like joon-young pretending to be married for 3 years(!) or bo-young who just doesn't care about image. You could say that Hyon-Woo is struggling with his own image of his wife that's so drastically different than what she feels (not that she isn't responsible for that unatainable image!)
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Anika
November 16, 2016 at 8:48 AM
I also wondered about why is it so important to get your seven years old son in art academy, I mean do we know that he is good at art subjects? Or does he wants to go simply because his friends decided so?
I mean yes, wish granting mom is great, but at that age I wanted to study so many not suited for me things, that if my parents listened to me everytime, now I would have awful scores and have no chance getting in university
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MapleSilver
November 16, 2016 at 8:39 AM
"I feel like he has decided to not take care of his son (in regard to taking him to school etc, not in regard to love) because his wife cheated. It makes him very unsymphatetic."
To answer this question posted above:
Go back and watch episode 1 and 2. He is the one who regularly takes his son to school. Remember the other parents/grandparents comment on how many fathers have flexible schedules too, but not many are willing to do pick-up/drop-off work. Many times Soo Yeon asks him to finish doing thing for her regarding the son, like finish feeding him breakfast, read to him in bed, etc..
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Mel
November 17, 2016 at 8:16 PM
We watched the same episode but what I saw from the very beginning was a guy who forgot to pick up hid kid because he was too busy getting a toy out of a machine. Other times he is too busy drinkink ang singing karaoke with his team to take care of his kid. He is so focused on himself that he practically forgot his child in the car when he was supposed to dropp him off, he is so busy pitying himself and stressing out everything she does/did wrong that he completely misses out how lonely the kid is and why he has no friends. Also in a different line of thought the other guy to whom h
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Islander north
November 16, 2016 at 10:23 AM
From experience, I'd say Hyun Woo is still in shock. He is not functioning well. He's in free fall and every time he tries to stabilize, something new happens as in the wife wanting to leave and take their son and now tossing divorce papers at him. On a deep level, at this point in the series, I don't see her as that great of a mother...she needs to quit acting like a flake.
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8 rowanharper
November 16, 2016 at 5:26 AM
This show is so real, so poignant, so well acted, so unexpectedly funny and so much better than I was expecting.
The only low point is Yoon ki ( but fastforward was made for reasons (characters) such as these) ;)
Can't wait for more.
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9 Ace in the Trap
November 16, 2016 at 5:43 AM
As much as I love Song Ji-hyo in comedic roles, I really love her in this (much like in Emergency Couple). I'm not justifying her cheating, but man I wanted to slap Sun-woo's wife AND Hyun-woo in this episode. T_T
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thatstp
November 16, 2016 at 9:48 AM
I am with you on slapping Sun Woo's wife and Hyun Woo. The wife pissed me off talking all that mess thinking she was better than Soo Yeon. I just wanted Soo Yeon to say "If you're so great then why did he cheat with me?" or "He said I was nothing? That's funny because he told my husband he loved me." I know Soo Yeon didn't say anything because she is accepting her punishment but that doesn't stop me from wanting her to cuss that wife out for being condescending.
Hyun Woo is showing his true colors. Makes me wonder how he acted in the past. He feels like his marriage was perfect but obviously it wasn't, he just didn't take time or care enough to see his wife was drowning. He is being downright mean and treating her like she was his property not his partner.
I don't condone cheating. I am firmly in the "Before you cheat you should leave" camp. HOWEVER, I know for a fact (from witnessing it happen more than a few times, male friends being cheated on and female friends cheating) for women, cheating is rarely about the sex. When you're being pulled at from every angle and you feel like your spouse can't or won't be supportive or helpful or even listen, it opens a door for someone else to step in. Doesn't mean you want out of your marriage or don't love your spouse. It just means at a vulnerable time someone offered an escape from the very thing that was suffocating you. Hyun Woo is hurt and right now is under no obligation to try to understand or be patient with Soo Yeon but if he were HALF as much a perfect spouse as he thought his wife was he would try to figure out what made her do what she did. Because honestly, he is scorching the earth with his behavior (ie not letting her talk after asking her a question) and if he keeps this up they won't be able to co-parent their child and that definitely will be the worse part of all of this.
Last thought, I am sick of people saying Soo Yeon hasn't apologized or taken responsibility when the first words out of her mouth at the hotel were I'm sorry and it's all my fault. Just because she tried to remain calm doesn't mean it wasn't a sincere apology. Soo Yeon, in an effort to take responsibility, has calmly tried to do everything he has asked but it's hard when he contradicts himself. I can't sympathize with Hyun Woo because, from the glimpses inside their marriage, it seems that as long as he was happy nothing else mattered. He wanted her to get on her knees and apologize thereby validating his feelings come before hers. Was she wrong as two left shoes? Absolutely. Should she be berated, condescended to and have her efforts as a mother the past 5 years invalidated by Hyun Woo for mistakenly looking for answers outside their marriage. Absolutely not.
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Nursejackie
November 16, 2016 at 10:19 AM
The problem with defending her as a mother is that she's disengaged from the entire family unit. List the things that she has done for her son from start to finish since the show started. Most of the hands on care taking seems to be done by hyunwoo. She cooks the breakfast but then runs out the door to work and her affair before eating with the family. She dresses him for bed but then asks hyunwoo to finish the task. She asks for a favor from another mother but then expects hyunwoo to repay that favor via cameramen. She makes plans to pick their child up and then at the last minute asks hyunwoo to get him, after all that talk about moving out and taking their son with her. At one point her husband and child ask to spend a day together and instead she runs off to meet her lover in a hotel room. For whatever reason she is mentally distancing herself from her husband and child.
Sooyeon is a terrifying and relatable character because she embodies the average cheater almost perfectly. She's a conflict avoidant cake eater. People feel the need to completely condemn her or defend her because all of us see ourselves in her. Sooyeon's weaknesses and struggles aren't at all uncommon. All of us have issues with conflict and communication sometimes. All of us want to do something selfish at the expense of others sometimes. The extreme reactions are in response to the embodiment of what we are all capable of.
I see your point about how she shouldn't be branded with a scarlet letter, but I can't completely agree. At this point she's still living in a fantasy, playing the martyr. It seems she's built up this story in her head where the affair was some Great Love that simply couldn't be and she's nothing but a loving, struggling, working mother. I think the insistence that the son enter the academy, even if it's ultimately to the child's detriment, is really about preserving that fantasy. The same goes for defending her affair partner, moving her and their child out of the family home, and ignoring hyunwoo's wishes regarding his mother. She's not ready to confront herself over her failures. It's infuriating to watch someone play the martyr like that at your expense, which is why hyunwoo keeps confronting her with the fact that she is at fault.
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gem28
November 16, 2016 at 10:43 AM
@Nursejackie
Very well put. Thank you, that is exactly why some can outright condemn her whereas some can find ways to understand her but we can all connect somehow.
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thatstp
November 16, 2016 at 11:54 AM
When had she said it was some great love affair? She said she missed him. Does that constitute a great love affair? I don't think shes playing a martyr. She knows she's wrong so she's taking her punishment. If it were I wouldn't care that I was wrong you are only going to yell at and degrade je for so long. There is no talking to him and there doesn't seem to be an end to it. He told her to leave the house and the son. She did. He says he wants to talk but won't let her have a word in edgewise . She wants to come clean with his mom so she won't blame him anymore, he says no. He doesn't want her to be at the house, it's his house, so she packs to leave only to have him call her a shit mom for leaving. She says she'll take the son with her, he yells why would you wake him and where would you take a sleeping child. What more can she do? He won't be happy until she's on her knees begging him to forgive her and I don't think that will satisfy him. The smartest thing she's done is fill out divorce papers. He will never forgive her, time for everyone to move on.
I'm at work on my tablet so forgive me if I missed something. On the fun side I work in a hair salon and have my computer workers and clients debating this too. I'm so proud that I have gotten others to join my addiction. Lol.
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Nursejackie
November 16, 2016 at 12:32 PM
You see it as accepting her punishment. I see it as passive aggression. Telling her mother in law, for instance. Truly accepting her punishment would mean dealing with the guilt of hyunwoo's mother scolding him until he felt comfortable explaining the situation to his mother himself. Instead she wrestles away what little control over the situation that hyunwoo does have and outs him to his mother as a cuckhold. He wasn't ready to give his mother that piece of intimate information but she ignored his feelings to alleviate her own guilt. And as a bonus now she gets to pat herself on the back for being honest. Classic passive aggression and zero concern for his feelings.
She didn't just say that she loved the affair partner. She said that it was all her fault (martyring herself) and that she missed him so much that she begged to see him one more time (putting the affair on a romantic pedestal while simultaneously twisting the knife). At no point has she given hyunwoo a sincere apology and asked for forgiveness. Every time she starts to apologize she ends it with "it was all my fault." She's trying to defend her affair partner to her husband while her husband is still processing a massive betrayal. That's not a true apology. That's trying to appease him to mitigate the fallout from the affair. Same with the other man's wife. Sitting and listening to her vent doesn't show remorse, it just shows that she's conflict avoidant.
Thus far she has shown zero character growth. The conflict avoidance that led to the affair still leaves her paralyzed. She has not come to terms with her own shortcomings. She hasn't truly made amends yet. I really hope that the drama will round out the characters by showing hyunwoo's mistakes in the marriage (though none of them will excuse what sooyeon did) and having sooyeon address the problems that prevent her from communicating openly.
You are definitely right in one way though. Even if they stay together the marriage will never go back to what it was and neither will her relationship with her son. It's a common saying but it really is true that all the glue in the world doesn't fix the cracks in a shattered plate and all the apologies in the world won't return a relationship to what it once was.
Nursejackie
November 16, 2016 at 12:33 PM
And good job on spreading the drama virus! Lol.
Dina
November 17, 2016 at 11:40 AM
Yes!! All of what you said describes it perfectly!
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Meeyo
November 16, 2016 at 6:58 PM
What i see here is most comment keep bashing towards Soo Yeon and keep on mentioning that she has been slacking off/disengaged from her responsibilities and duties as wife and mother [during her 6 MONTHS love affair].
We tend to see the worst and bad of other person when they did something wrongful and yet we try to close our eyes and heart on how she has lives as a good wife and mother for the past 5 YEARS!
Well, She really cares for her family during those 5 YEARS and we can't deny and close that fact.
I do not condone cheating and i know how much it hurts when someone you love cheat on you. We after all only human and as human we tend to only see thing our way or believe whatever happen in front of us. We sometimes forget that other people maybe suffering and they choose to keep quiet or some choose wrong path of life.
Now, the only option is how those two handle their cracked marriage. Those two to need to talk/explain to each other or go to marriage counseling and
No. 1) accept that their marriage is beyond repair and go for separate ways. Asking other people (not specialist on marriage) for opinion and pointing out who is at fault will only hurt the child and their relationship further more. (Other people do not know your partner well, so there will be lot of biased opinions)**
No.2) accept your partner wrongdoings and become family again (well, that really need a lot of courage to take someone back and a lot of patience as some day the memories of hurting/ deceiving may haunt you back, it will always haunt you back!!). To become back as family, you need to remember what good of person your partner is and keep reminding yourself that this will work. You must not get haunt by that 10% of the wrongdoing if you want to build your family back.
To accept or not to accept, that is not really the question. But the most important is yourself. Whether can you be happy and live through this situation and what that other person really mean to you.
Love is not only what you feel but what effort you and your partner has done and shared.
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10 Lx
November 16, 2016 at 6:27 AM
Anyone else getting sick and tired of Yoon Ki's part? So repetitive and IMO, kinda unnecessary.
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Heroonthebeach
November 16, 2016 at 6:53 AM
Yes I really hope we get less Yoon ki scenes unless they are really heading somewhere with this storyline. At least in this episode we got less of it compared to ep5.. I am no longer finding his scenes funny at all
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Islander north
November 16, 2016 at 10:30 AM
Yoon-ki isn't a guy who has affairs, he is the classic "womanizer." You can spot them fairly easily if you have cleaned your glasses and BS sensors. We had a doctor in our town who, for years, had an endless series of affairs with women of all ages. Countless divorces (with children) came from working for this guy. But women still fell for his line of garbage.
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mary
November 16, 2016 at 1:43 PM
He's cheating. Plain and simple. I don't get why he gets a pass while Soo-yeon is being axed.
Six episodes of him making out with random women should be enough to tell us that he's a despicable character, right? I just want the show to give us less of his sexcapades and get a move on with his actual story.
Why does he do this? Why does his wife go to great lengths to catch him if he was never caught? Why do they both put up with this stupid "game"?
That throwaway convo in an earlier ep "as long as she doesn't catch me and I try hard not to get caught, we love each other" just doesn't cut it anymore. If that was the only point of their storyline, then they could have just given us that tidbit and erased the characters completely after that.
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Mikimouse12
November 16, 2016 at 6:52 PM
Ikr. That's what upsets me the most. Why is it okay for him to cheat but not Soo-yeon? Right? I just think regardless of the gender, cheating is not okay. Cheating should not be glorified! Ugh. I just remembered the petal shower scene. Hahahaha
Nina Chikovani
November 16, 2016 at 7:00 AM
I try to reason so many Yoon Ki scenes as showing why affairs happen.
We have someone who gives a lot thought to it, ALSO loves her spouse (at some degrees), we pity her
And someone who simply doesn't think about it as a big deal, for whom it is like a game and... that's it. We feel disgusted watching him
I think real affairs happen with those two combined, like two sides of coin? Or two different stories with the same consequences
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11 Heroonthebeach
November 16, 2016 at 6:56 AM
Thanks for the recap and comments. Totally agree about how refreshing it will be when we start exploring Joon Young and Bo Young's relationship because it will be the one adultery free relationship - unless they decide to throw in some complication and Joon Young's wife decides to return to him! Even so I am also looking forward to see the show explore Bo Young's journey post divorce... she's indeed one of the more likeable characters so far on the show!
Have shared my thoughts on this episode here: http://wp.me/p7U37n-sp
Thanks all for your comments and sharing.. I always learn a lot when reading the comments for the show!
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MapleSilver
November 16, 2016 at 1:10 PM
Great analysis as always. You hit it with the nail that Yoon Ki is an addict and as such he will probably meet his end like an addict. He might lose everything he has, his house, his wife, his practice, and even his life. We'll see how far this show dares go with this character.
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12 klurker
November 16, 2016 at 7:11 AM
As a mom of a kindergarten student, I can totally relate to the awkward moms' meeting. I don't know why I always cringe whenever we meet up and chat. Lol!
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13 Chronic
November 16, 2016 at 7:13 AM
I can't wait until Yoon Ki is busted.
Honestly, Hyun Woo is somewhat frustrating. I don't know, right from the start, he doesn't seem like a good, dedicated father to his son. But he preached to Soo Yeon about being a good mother and all. And he often act on impulse, and I'm like, can you pls chill like 0.2 sec before saying/doing sth you might regret.
But I also understand people's frustration over Soo Yeon. No matter how much the show sugar-coated it, she did cheat. For 6 months. With someone who has a family of his own. If Hyun Woo hadn't discovered it in the first place, who knows if they'll ever stop.
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14 vivian
November 16, 2016 at 9:50 AM
Am I this only one waiting for ji hyo to have a full blown outbust so I can finally know what's going on in her head. Fingers crossed it happens soon.
Side note-didn't realize how had it is to be a working mother, makes me appreciate my mum more
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mary
November 17, 2016 at 12:42 AM
I'm waiting for her too! Right now, I like that the show holds her back from us so we can have all these discussions and speculations about the couple, but I hope they don't make this a cheap trick and drag it on until the final ep.
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15 lunatic4kd
November 16, 2016 at 10:27 AM
What I am loving most about this uber-realistic drama is how much an affair affects EVERYONE who comes into its orbit - and I'm not saying it's wrong one way or the other. I'm hoping the drama keeps tending int his direction because the accuracy is mind-blowing...even affecting the people reading his angry-agony-blogs. As humans moving in a concentric circle, we are all truly affected by group mentality - not unlike a flock of birds turning all at the same time. There is an energy connection that impacts us all - for better or for worse.
The thing that intrigues me about Soo Yeon is that everything revolves from her action - and I'm not just talking about the action of her affair. Her behavior started long long before. Just watch her come alive with fake "please approve of me" when she's around the group of mothers, yet shut down around her own husband. This woman desperately wants to be loved but something in her early childhood(?) taught her to be meek and obedient instead of strong and honestly outspoken. Thus, she enables the dominant personality of her husband to continue being clueless about her real feelings.
Once again, I'm reminded that almost 100% of dramatic tension and plot in k-drama is driven by someone's act of being dishonest or withholding feelings from another. In our outspoken American (dare I say 'crude') society, no wonder we are driven to plots that jump quickly into sex or acts of cruelty. People are honest from the git-go and we have raced right past innuendo and subtlety.
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16 Islander north
November 16, 2016 at 10:35 AM
I am curious about Joon Young's marriage...leaving 3 days after the honeymoon, WTH? He and Bo Young are two of my favorite characters.
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17 therealpacman
November 16, 2016 at 11:17 AM
Reading the comments, I'm seeing a lot of back and forth between people annoyed with one of Hyun Woo or Soo Yeon. My thoughts on this are that I feel pity for Soo Yeon and sympathy for Hyun Woo. They're related feelings, but nuanced in a way that is important, and I think echoed by the drama.
I pity Soo Yeon. She's trying hard to be a good mother and I think her scene with her mother in law showed just how much she did for her family. But she made the first transgression. There's no way around that. Yes, Hyun Woo might not have been the most supportive husband but that's just an excuse. There were other options available to her, including the one she's now considering, divorce. In that sense, while I can understand her motivations and actions, I can't sympathize with her. She made her bed, now she has to lie in it.
I sympathize with Hyun Woo. Whatever character shortcomings he had, he didn't deserve this. And while he's no saint, his actions have an easy explanation behind them. He's lashing out because he's hurt. Yes, that's an excuse and two wrongs don't make a right, but in the cause and effect world where chronology matters, the root cause of all his hurt is Soo Yeon's betrayal. Her actions, in some sense, led to his actions, sort of a thematic link back to original sin (I'll get back to this later). So even though he did some bad things, like try to ruin the other cheater's family, it's linked to Soo Yeon's original transgression.
I think where the drama really illustrates this is how the characters around them deal with them. Hyun Woo has a decent support group. Joon Young, Bo Young and even Yoon Ki are all somewhat aware and trying to help. He's even posted his story online and has netizens like TunaMayo on his side. It shows that even in the drama, characters sympathize with him. They connect with him. They might not agree with what he's doing, but they are willing to hear him out and try to understand him.
Soo Yeon, by contrast, has no one. She's a pitiful character. Ironically, the closest thing she has is Hyun Woo's mother and even in that scene, you can see just how pitiful she is as she cries in front of the only support she has left. Hell, even her cheating partner has abandoned her.
The drama is really setting up Soo Yeon to take on the burden of the villain here. Like the original sin of Adam and Eve eating from the tree of knowledge and thus dooming all of mankind to be expelled from the garden of eden, her affair has cost all other characters namely Hyun Woo, and Joon Soo and thus their transgressions link back to her. I think thematically, this is what the writers are going for and judging by others comments, they're doing it well. Because just as with the original sin, it's not like Soo Yeon had no reason. The snake, in this case Hyun Woo's lack of compassion and support, drove her towards her "sin". But ultimately, she went through with it and so all...
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Chandler
November 16, 2016 at 4:55 PM
Absolutely LOVE this comment! Your thoughts are completely in line with mine.
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Mikimouse12
November 16, 2016 at 6:55 PM
Same thoughts! Very well explained. <3
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loveblossom
November 16, 2016 at 8:09 PM
@therealpacman Great analysis!
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18 lazielizard
November 16, 2016 at 7:11 PM
I skip ahead whenever Yoon-ki shows up. I might start paying attention to him when all hell breaks loose and his wife destroys him. At least I really hope she does..otherwise I will keep on skipping. :)
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19 minty
November 16, 2016 at 10:14 PM
Do I the only feel heart broken when HW said to SY that she is not a good mother and using her kid as an excuse?
Even youre the worst person in the world, a mother always loves their children no matter what. I can feel the pain in her eyes. This mother is hurt. As i remember, my cousin used to keep telling his children that their mother is crazy and mental illness. The kids grew up with this idea and told their mom "crazy person" everytime they didnt get what they want. Like SY and HW, no matter how angry he is, he shouldnt say that.
Im glad that she fill the divorce form. She and HW need time.
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hi
November 17, 2016 at 1:56 AM
The way she is acting with that Mother's group really makes no sense. She even agreed to get her estranged husband to do something for them. Her child isn't even engaged in the organization. So I agree with the Husband that there is some sort of disconnect in how she is putting up the facade with them versus what her son is receiving.
Also her fault for missing the deadline so no pity there. I hate working with people like that.
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MapleSilver
November 17, 2016 at 8:25 AM
I also have a little trouble with her saying that her husband will send a VJ when he already says no. It shows that she is confident he will eventually relent based on past experiences. And we see that he does tell the moms that he will send someone else. Hints like this make me think that as short tempered as he is he loves her enough to cater to her wishes many times in their marriage. And I can't blame Hyun Woo to be royally pissed at the length she would go to appease the moms, not daring to say no to them, while being so bold as to carry on an affair for six months behind his back.
I want to tell everyone how much I enjoy reading the comments and the very thoughtful analysis of the characters' motivations. I love this drama.
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20 princess_amira
November 17, 2016 at 8:56 AM
I've been reading the comments, and I just can't help but smile. We all know that this is just a drama, but it affected us as if we were in that situation. This is the definition of Drama!
Anyways, I really love SY and HW's mom. I'm about to cry, then enter Hyun Woo and Joon Young! :D
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MapleSilver
November 17, 2016 at 11:04 AM
It's a brilliant way to keep the show from getting too depressing.
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21 DanaXOX
November 20, 2016 at 5:46 PM
Oh give me a break. Stop trying to find excuses for her behavior. Yes her husband was self-absorbed but she could have easily told him that she needed more from him. Then, if he still ignored the situation, she could freely leave with nothing on her conscience. Of course, that wouldn't make for much of a drama, I know, but I really don't think she deserves any sympathy.
Instead, she was entirely selfish and not only hurt her husband but another person's family. I thoroughly enjoyed everything the wife said to her and it was completely deserved.
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22 AsianDrama16
November 20, 2016 at 9:59 PM
Sunkyun's Hyunwoo is so wooden I find it hard to take him seriously. Jihyo's Sooyeon, however, is so real it hurts. BoA's Boyoung is on point, but Sangyeob's Joonyoung is so loud it hurts my ears.
The Yoonki-Ara subplot is supposed to be comic relief and a foil for the main plot, but it's so clicheic that it's boring. Heewon's acting, too, is over the top. The pace for the entire series is slowed by this comic subplot that adds little to the main story.
I find the SN chat scenes and characters interesting.
I also find Sunwoo and his wife fascinating. As characters, they are very believable. I can't help but think that this couple should've been developed instead of Yoonki-Ara. Toned down, Joonyoung could have made an interesting pairing with Boyoung. Together, they could balance out the more serious plots involving Hyunwoo-Sooyeon and Sunwoo and his wife. Yoonki-Ara could still provide comic relief, but their screen time could be drastically reduced.
But this is just wishful thinking. The script is what it is. Uneven in acting quality with Jihyo, BoA, Sukjoon, and Kanghoon (as Joonsoo) keeping it afloat. The script, too, is weak, with the emphasis on the wrong storylines.
The director, faced with a dry script, is milking certain characters such as Joonyoung and Yoonki, but it's not working. This script would have benefited greatly with the help of a good script doctor.
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23 desa
November 23, 2016 at 12:04 PM
From my impression she slept with Micheal once and it was 6 months ago. They had an affair but I also got the impression that it had been broken off and then she contacted him because she missed him. So it is wrong to say she was cheating for 6 months. Yes the single instance of sleeping together was 6 months ago but it was not the whole 6 months but I see from many comments here people think she has been cheating for 6 months.
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24 reellife
December 5, 2016 at 6:09 AM
Some "halftime" remarks:
1. HW's mum gives fair opinion to SY after her confession.
She accurately perceived SY's effort as wife, mother, and in her job. While she didn't criticise SY, she emphasised that SY cannot divorce because she is a mother.
2. SW's wife had good reason to meet and castigate SY (although it appears that SW got away lightly, I do not believe there are no fallouts). Perhaps the wife more to lose in a divorce and it will just drive him to SY.
3. HW's reaction to SY infidelity may be harsh to SY and SW but I thought that it wasn't vindictive. Someone else would have created an embarrassing scene at the hotel and at both their workplaces. I guess, he still loved SY.
4. HW is not a bad husband, but he isn't a good one either. He was self-centred, inconsiderate, and acted like a spoilt teenager often. He failed to understand support SY enough.
So, she found escape and respite with SW.
5. SY's infidelity may have given her some comfort momentarily but she is beginning to pay for it. She will have to live with guilt, regret, shame, social ostracism of an adulterer, divorcee, and mother who scarred her son's life. Now she can just claim "it just happened"!
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25 iseng
December 5, 2016 at 5:30 PM
Anyone knows what's the background song playing in Ep 6 26:40? thanks
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26 iseng
December 5, 2016 at 5:32 PM
i mean anyone knows what's the background song playing in Ep 6 19.40? thank you (my mistake)
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27 Riddhima
May 23, 2017 at 9:13 AM
For me, cheating is cheating. It is rather better to leave the relationship and separate than work it out. There will always be trust issues and paranoia. I hope they separate.
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